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break up, the worst scenario
Well I'm seventeen, my guy, 18 well. I met him when I was thirteen and he was fourteen, we became best friends and this last April he started dating. It seemed so perfect, we were so happy and I had never had such a perfect boyfriend. We had rough patches like every couple however, he drank and smoked and did some drugs. I didn't like it but I grew to be fine with it after a while. I took his virginity and my best friend was dating his best friend. Well, he had this friend called "M" who was moved to foster care in California two and a half years ago. (she was all of our friends but they were best friends) Well we planned a trip out to California to go see her. I thought about how romantic it would be to go on a road trip with my amazing guy to California and spend new years eve which is also our anniversary together. Well, when we got there we spent the night together then he got up and drove out to Lancaster to get her. I didn't see him til later that night. He wouldn't talk to me, he sat in his car high, I got really drunk and yelled at him. He forgave me and we made up. Then "M" foster mom called and said she was going to lose her license if we didn't bring her back. He left to her back and I waited all night for him. The next morning I went out to his car. And he told me this... "Grace, I love you, but I don't want to fuck up anymore, I don't want to hurt you. You know I'm not ready for a serious relationship and if I stay with you I'm just going to hurt you." It crushed me so much. After I cried for two hours and he cried too, he said we should try to be best friends like we used to, I've been trying since he dumped me a week ago, but it's hard, it was hard being on a road trip with a guy that promised he loved me then dumped me so easy. What to I say to him to make him realize that he's not thinking straight, how can I get him back. I wanna be his friend, but I'd rather keep being his girlfriend.
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It sounds like your boyfriend cheated but it could also be possible the girl told him a few things and got him thinking a little bit.
If he doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore then you can't force him to be in one. The best thing to do is try to move on, I think it's wrong how he waits until you two go on a road trip together to bring this up. My advice, Ride it out until you get back home. Try to get along with him as best you can but understand where you stand. If you feel you are strong enough to maintain a friendship with him then you can work on it from there. If you need to take some time away for awhile then do so. There are always others out there for you.
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More than likely he has cheated on you already. He may not have been man enough to admit it but he was man enough to end a relationship with you that he knew he couldn't be faithful to. You may still have all of these strong feelings for him but since he was able to dump you so easily, the feelings are definitely not the same on his end. You may be able to be friends with him some day in the future but since you've been together romantically, it will never be the same. It is going to be hard and a long road to move on from him but that's exactly what you need to do. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Oh that's a hard decision. He's giving you hints that he will hurt you if you stay with him. Which means he either likes another girl or he is going to hurt you no matter what because of the type of guy he is. I think you shouldn't be friends. Your in a tough situation right now. And being friends will only hurt you more because if he has another girlfriend your just going to get hurt and want to be that girl. Don't do this. Never remain best friends. He was drunk though so he probably didn't mean it. But this guy doesn't seem like he deserves you. He cares about you but he doesn't want you to get hurt at the same time. I'd say drop him and leave. But if you dont....then take a break from him. Those are the only ways out of this. The guy said the truth that he doesn't want a serious relationship. So he's not thinking seroiusly about you. It's sad but it's true. You need to move on to someone better. I hope you find someone who will take a serious relationship with you though.
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