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Cold sores on his penis?
Ever since I could remember, I've had cold sores on my lips. They come and they go. I don't get them alot, usually just in the winter. Well, I had one on the right side of my lips, and my boyfriend who is still a virgin* I gave him headd, well later that night, he called me and told me he had something that looked like a hickey on his shaft, and another one right under his head; but it had a rough texture too it. He said it hurt him to touch it, and to even pee. Did my cold sore do this?
Btw, now after we kissed, he has three cold sores on his bottom lip, and three lie bumps on the tip of his tongue. Is this from me too? Or is it because he had strep throat? My cold sore is completely gone. But I read someone elses post, and they had a smiliar problem, and they said she had a std?
I've had sex with two guys; One was a virgin, and the other one had sex with two girls before me. I gave them both head; but I haven't experienced any signs of STD's.
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Hi there,
Cold sores are 100% for sure a type of herpes. The next part is hard to explain... They aren't CALLED genital herpes, because that is the name of another kind of herpes, but if you have one on your face and you put your face on someone's genitals, as you have done here, then you may have given that person the herpes version that was on your face.
Anyone who tells you cold sores aren't herpes outbreaks is an idiot. I once met a doctor who didn't know this simple fact. How sad is that?
Anyway here is a quote from WebMD:
"What causes cold sores?
Cold sores are caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV). There are two types of herpes simplex virus: HSV-1 and HSV-2. Both virus types can cause lip and mouth sores and genital herpes."
Please go here and read more that will help you:
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As for your boyfriend, he needs to get tested. The best time to get tested is during an outbreak where they can swap the actual sore.
Oh, and here is something you should think about:
If you put herpes on his penis, then you put his penis in you (condoms don't help much with herpes) then you put herpes in your own vagina. Sores on the vagina would really be awful, right?
How important is it for him to get tested? Well, this thing is for life. If you two ever break up, he will likely infect every woman he ever has sex with.
Both forms of herpes are considered sexually transmitted, by the way, and if you don't believe this, well, there is a reason they test you for both when they do standard STD testing.
I hope, for both of your sakes, that you haven't passed this nasty disease to his genitals. I also hope that he didn't in turn pass it to your genitals.
Good luck, and please let me know how the tests come back when you leave feedback.
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HSV-1 = Oral Herpes (cold sores)
HSV-1 = Genital Herpes
You can get oral herpes on your genitals.
You can get genital herpes on your mouth.
Again, most STD tests don't test for herpes unless you SPECIFICALLY REQUEST IT (and pay the extra money).
I never said you have genital herpes.
Oral herpes is what you likely have.
Maybe you have misunderstood your doctor:
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Yes, you have an STD.
Coldsores = herpes.
Herpes = sexually transmitted disease.
Always. Every single time.
There is very much mis-information below that I need to clear up. It is NOT a "very slight" chance that HSV-2 ("genital herpes") transfers to the mouth. Those odds are actually EXTREMELY high, especially if there is a current outbreak (or within two weeks prior or after an outbreak). HSV-2 tends to spread faster than HSV-1, for whatever reason. It's more apt to spread from the mucus membrane onto the other parts of the flesh (ie: from the vagina, down the thighs, up the abdomen, etc.).
Unfortunately, you are NOT STD-free. Telling a partner that you are is false information. Knowing you have an STD, especially something like herpes or HIV, can actually make you liable for bodily damages if your partner becomes infected from your negligence. Of course, these lawsuits usually happen after a messy break-up. Technically, if you did pass the virus along to your partner without informing him of your infection before your encounters, he could sue you.
The virus (either HSV-1 or HSV-2 strains) usually shows up 10 - 14 days after contracting it. There have been cases in which people have contracted the virus and did not have their first outbreak for months. Some people have reported lesions as little as 4 or 5 days after their infectious encounter. That I am aware of, there are no reported cases of lesions appearing within the first 24 hour period from infection.
When a person contracts HSV-1 or HSV-2, the virus actually lives in the body, at the lower base of the spinal cord, for the rest of the person's life. There is absolutely no cure for herpes. Unfortunately, you do not need to currently be having an outbreak to transfer this STD so there are millions of Americans who have contracted herpes because there were no visible signs of infection.
Herpes is very, very common now:
"...one in six adults have genital herpes. It is estimated that over 80 million Americans have herpes of one form or another. This means that 8 in 10 Americans are or will become infected."
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I also want to note that most people have regular outbreaks but it is possible to go years (anywhere from 1 year to 10+ years) in between them. Most people also show signs of contracting HSV-1/2 about 10 to 14 days after but there are occasions where some do not have outbreaks for years and some occasions where people have the initial outbreak much sooner than average. The first outbreak usually is the most severe of them. Because of this:
Your partner could have possibly had herpes long before your encounter.
There are thousands, if not millions, of herpes-infected people who are complete virgins. The sad truth is that during innocent diaper-changes many parents end up spreading their virus along to their infant. It's entirely too common. Go to any herpes forum and you'll see a dozen questions right away asked by parents with infants and toddlers who have contracted the virus from unwashed hands. Unfortunately, many of these children grow up to think their symptoms are fairly normal for the average healthy person, not knowing they're infected with a disease, or end up going years in between outbreaks and not putting two-and-two together as, well, a disease.
I, personally, contracted herpes through innocent contact with my mother prior to my turning 4 years old. I can remember my first known outbreak. It wasn't until I was nearly 20 that I learned my "harmless" coldsore was really an STD.
Engaging in oral sex during an outbreak is incredibly risky for both partners. The give-er can actually spread their own herpes around their mouth/face. The receiver can end up with whatever herpes strain(s) their partner has all over their genitals.
Thousands, if not millions, of Americans have HSV-2 ("genital" herpes) on their mouths.
Thousands, if not millions, of Americans have HSV-1 ("oral" herpes; coldsores; feverblisters) on their genitals.
Some people have herpes on their elbows, believe it or not. Any place where there is a minor break in the skin and the infected cells get to can become an outbreak location for the virus.
If your partner has the lesions right now, encourage him to get a full STD test drawn up. Have him specially request a test for herpes, as many/most typical STD tests don't even test for either strain any more. Encourage him to ask them to swab/scape the area for the more accurate results for these bumps and lesions. They will drawn blood for the bloodwork of the test. He will get a response within a few weeks if he has been infected or if these sores have nothing to do with herpes.
Chances of these sores being herpes?
Extremely high.
Chances you gave him herpes?
Unfortunately...extremely high. Engaging in kissing, oral sex, or sharing food/utensils during an outbreak is, seriously, the worst thing a person can do. The "peak" contagious time for a herpes-infected person is about 2 weeks before an outbreak, the time during the actual outbreak and healing process, and a full 2 weeks after the outbreak has cleared and there are no visible signs present.
He needs to see a doctor.
Now before the sores clear up.
I have a lot of hours in on learning about herpes. If you have any questions that you want real, factual information about from REAL LIFE (and not strictly the "well my doctor said!" BS people throw around) please inbox me your questions. I can even share some herbal supplements you can take to reduce your outbreak time, symptoms, discomfort, and frequency.
P.S.
This BS about "herpes isn't serious" is really terrible. People die from herpes. I'm not trying to scare you, I promise, but there are many reported cases of people actually DYING because they were herpes infected. It isn't a harmless disease. It can very well be dead for many individuals, and has even spread to the brain and caused death. I think that's kind of serious...don't you? ;)
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"Cold sores" are the common same for Herpes Simplex Virus 1 (HSV-1), or oral herpes. It's extremely common - most people have it. It can be transmitted to the genitals, but it's uncommon. Even if it is transmitted, the symptoms take longer than a few hours to show up. If that was the first time you gave him head (and you've never had intercourse), those spots on his penis didn't come from you.
The cold sores around his mouth - those definitely might have come from you. But he shouldn't worry about it - he would probably get those sooner or later anyway.
There is a very slight chance that you have a genital herpes (HSV-2) infection in your mouth. That almost never happens, but it is possible. However, again, that wouldn't have shown up on his penis for several days at the very soonest.
Hope this helps. Technically HSV-2 is considered an incurable 'STD', but it's not a terribly bad one as far as such things go. If you're really worried about it, they have tests for both HSV-1 and HSV-2 for about a hundred bucks.
Good luck! And don't be too worried. You guys will be fine.
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