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I don't want to be friends with them anymore
so this group of friends I leaned back on because i was depressed and needed i guess a non popular click to hear me out. When i was sad and lonely i was like them, but now i am out going and i wanna be closer friends with my REAL friends, that i love. So i'm not really depressed anymore. I just don't want to be around people that were like me in the past, they don't fit in with my click and i don't want to be friends with them, so how do i get out of it? And please don't say "you shouldn't not be friends with hem anymore" They are annoying and bossy and crazy that why there not in my popular friends group, i just want them out. Not to be like a bitch but they really helped me out a lot but i really don't want to be friends with them anymore, and the people i am hanging out with now or my long-time friends are good listeners too. They are more social and out going and loud. Which is exactly my type thats how i am. But i felt out of place a year ago so i leaned on those other friends, but i know i cant have a relationship with both. SO HOW DO I STOP BEING FRIENDS WITH THEM? THANK YOU.
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I could say that is very low, but then I'm just contradicting myself because I have done the SAME EXACT THING. I understand what you are going through, but looking from the outside in, you need to realize that it's not just about you, it's about them also. These people were there for you when you needed people the most. Where were your other friends? It seems like you just used them while your "longtime besties" were out being your *real* friends. You shouldn't be friends with these people however if you don't even like them. It's your decision and whatever happens in the future will be based on your choice. I'm going to be straight foward and tell you these people aren't going to handle you leaving them so great. Either way, slowly drifting or just immediatly cutting communication is going to show them you want to have nothing to do with the friendships. Everyone can kind of sense when people don't like them, so I'm sure they already have a few hints. Just do it lightly and decide what will be easier. I say drift slowly, that way its not so obvious. Don't treat them like there nothing, remember THEY WERE THERE FOR YOU. Good luck(:
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That's low. I'm sorry but you Cannot use people like that. You have to think about their feelings. They are going to hate you, and you should expect that. And why can't you have a relationship with both? It's not like your cheating on your friends, you just like to have other friends too.
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OK, I have to tell you I'm completely honest when I give advice. You were basically using them, right? Ofcourse,you actually appreciated them at the time, but not now, as your back to your old self and you want to ditch them. You should tell them that you won't be hanging with them so much anymore, but you still would like to talk to them time to time. You have to say this so it doesn't seem like your abandoning them. Thank them and let them know how much you appreciate them and also, tell them they're welcome to hang out with you and you're old friends anytime! They probably wont, but it's always better to offer. Be sure not to come across as mean/rude, you have to remember that these people were nothing but helpful to you,and were probably the reason you got back on you're feet. Be polite and break it down gently!
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