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so i want to tell people were together
i'm 21 and My boyfriend(24) and i have been together for a while and we have been keeping it secret i want to tell people but i'm scared what they will think. we got together at a really rocky point in our lives and i'm not sure people will except that because of what we went through i love him and am hopeing we can have a long term relationship any advice on what i should do
thanx
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Props to you for sticking together through tough times! If anything, that makes your relationship more solid and more likely to last the distance, because you have practice in dealing with the hard stuff.
My fiance and I have been together for 4 years now. We met right before my mental illness became a lot worse. I treated him terribly at times, but he understood, even if other people didn't. His family, our friends, everyone thought he should dump me and run, but he didn't, and we're together and happy now.
So don't be worried about what other people think. In the end it's only what you guys think that matters. If someone has an issue with the rocky start, you can tell them that if you guys can make it through that together, you can make it through anything.
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There's important missing information here - namely, what exactly the circumstances were when you met (the "rocky point" in your lives), and what exactly it is about your boyfriend that people might not approve of. I'm guessing that addiction to, or at least use of or selling an illegal substance was involved? Or perhaps some other crime? You need to tell the people that matter to you that your boyfriend has gotten better, stopped doing whatever it was he used to do, and that you're seeing him on the condition that he stay "clean", or crime-free, or whatever it is.
And I hope that's true! If you're seeing him, I hope it's on the condition that he, and you, not fall back in to whatever bad pattern whas going on. You should be there to help each other stay healthy, employed, and law-abiding, not codependently enable each other in bad behavior.
Good luck!
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