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Worst anal expierence in the WORLD!!
My boyfriend and I tried anal for the first time tonight and it was HORRID. He would poke around my anus and it wouldnt hurt, but when he put ALOT of lube on his penis and my anus and shoved the head in, it was the worst pain ive ever felt in a very long time. i almost passed out, i was having cold sweats, i was dizzy and i came very close to throwing up a couple of times. And a few hours later, i have been cramping around my cervix and its been the worse day of my life.. what happend?!
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I am old enough to be your grandfather and offer advice in a straightforward manner as would be expected from a grandparent.
To a certain extent I agree with peeps; you may have harmed yourself somewhat in your attempt at anal sex. I have my doubts as to whether the harm done is life threatening, given the time that has passed, but it is better to be safe and ask a doctor. There is nothing to be embarrassed about in asking to be checked out. You are not the first and you will not be the last person the doctor will see in the practice of emergency medicine with this request. No one will think less or ridicule you.
On the subject of sex itself: Anything done between two consenting adults, not meant to do physical harm to the other, is really no ones business but theirs. On the subject of anal sex, you will either love it or hate it. Also what is good for the goose is good for the gander. Meaning if your boyfriend wants to stick his finger, butt plug or penis up your anus their is no reason you cannot stick a finger, butt plug or dildo up his anus.
Once you learn how to properly accommodate a foreign object in the anal canal, anal sex can be very enjoyable for both sexes and is not considered gay for the male. One word of caution; in anal sex play a condom should be used at all times, even on toys. Then the toys and the penis should be thoroughly washed before allow it entry to the vagina. Nails on fingers should be trimmed so as not to cut or scratch the anal canal.
Since you were the subject of the anal invasion; given the poor results of your attempt, I'm not sure you would want to try again. Should you wish to do so I have found 2 websites you may wish to visit that will help instruct you in the proper way to go about having anal sex without harming you or your boyfriend.
First things first. See a doctor ASAP to make sure you have not been harmed. Then decide if you want to try anal sex again. Done properly anal sex can be very enjoyable. The recipient must be able to relax, feel secure in their surroundings and you must have time to relax and accommodate what is penetrating you. If you do not feel safe, if you are not comfortable in your surroundings or your sexual antics are being rushed for any reason; do not attempt anal sex.
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You need to go to the hospital. The emergency room. Immediately.
Just because you don't see blood doesn't mean something isn't hurt, torn, or damaged. The idea that you're having internal cramping in your lower abdomen coupled with cold sweats, dizziness, and nausea indicates that there is something seriously wrong going on in your body.
Things just aren't suppose to be shoved up there. To be successful with anal sex it takes more than just lube and a good thrust. The rectum can easily be torn and you can literally bleed out and die within minutes if the damage is severe.
Your boyfriend needs to read up on anal sex. You need to read up on anal sex. You aren't in a porn studio. You don't do this sort of thing all of the time. Your anal opening isn't stretched to naturally accommodate a penis. This sort of "he put ALOT of lube on his penis and my anus and shoved the head in" can actually be quite dangerous and even deadly.
Go to the ER. Clumsy accidents like this happen all of the time where one or both partners don't understand the human body and how things like this should work. There's NOTHING to be embarrassed about when seeking medical help for this. There are hundreds, if not thousands, of people who go to the ER for this sort of thing every single day. Nobody will think you're dirty, stupid, wrong, or nasty because of this thing. They get paid to help people in this sort of manner, and they've seen A LOT worse than internal tears from anal sex gone wrong--trust me! Your health is VERY important. Your life could very well be at stake.
Like I said, just because you don't see blood doesn't mean something isn't hurt. You could be bleeding internally. You could have severe internal bruising. Your body is freaking out because it's trying to tell you that something is really messed up and wrong. Listen to it. Get immediate medical help.
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