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School Problems
Ok so this really stinks I am getting bugged at school by this girl Kayla and her friend Megan. I used to be friends with both of them but not anymore because they were being mean to my best friend Laura. Anyway its not really bad but they bug me enough to get annoyed. I really dont get why the want to harrass me because it makes no sense I did not even do anything to them except for stand up for Laura when they were saying mean things to her. This crap is so overated and it feels like I'm in third grade or something. I can't take it!!! ....also there is this boy who I like alot I've known him since elementary school and I know that he likes me too. The only problem is that he is dating Megan the one who is harrassing me. Also I already have a boy who keeps bugging me to go out with him and if I went out with the other guy who I like and is going out with megan then the boy who is bugging me would be really mad at me. I still want to be friends with him and I dont want to hurt his feelings but I dont know what to do, I wish this was all so much easier. I asked my Mom about this but what she told me I already knew. Thank you for your time and advice.
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A. As For The Frenemies Girls
If you mentally review the process (briefly)of actually being friends with these girls to becoming adversaries in their eyes, there might be the underlying theme that this b/f of Ms. Previous has always noticed you noticing this guy you liked for awhile and if your competition to her/them in anyway..... you standing up for your friend was just the spark necessary in order for her to confront you about something that isn't even within your control. So picking on your friend was the way in to outwardly and publicy beef with you. Your really don't need to subject yourelf to their target practice. If its true that he feeling you, she knows too. You make her... uncomfortable. Sense it not required to catch an attitude with someone for anything. But it is required to make a small thing long lasting.
Besides, if they are still together, he's not capable of stepping off from her, so LET THAT GO. If and when he approaches you (as a single guy).... reconsider then for yourself.
As for the guy, who you not interested in.
Are you not only interested in him because you like this girl boyfriend? If so, maybe you should take another inspection of him without the blind passion of your elementary lovejones. If he's still not your cup of tea? Then advocate that to him in the least hostile way as possible. As an alternative maybe you can introduce him to someone who IS interested ands willing. Smooth transitions make BETTER solutions... for everyone except the guity and the unjust.
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ok so i'm gonna break this up into smaller questions/answers.
1. i wouldn't worry about kayla and megan.. the reason why most girls are mean to other girls is basically because they don't have any self confidence. they feel better if they make someone else feel worse about themselves. basically, they want to feel better about themselves by putting other people down. its not right. good for you when you stood up for your friend Laura. we all need a friend like you. i've had times when i've always wanted a friend like you, someone to stand up for me. you should be proud of yourself for doing that. i mean it. as for kayla and megan, you have to have this attitude that says "i really could care less about you guys and if you feel like putting me down to make you feel better is helpful, then i feel sorry for you guys" you can either stand up to them and call them out and say "what you guys are doing is wrong and i feel bad for you because you have to go through so much effort just to have self confidence and feel better" call them out on it and let them know that what they are doing is ridiculous. laugh at them if you want to. i know i would. laugh at their face and just laugh at the fact that they are so immature if they want to make themselves feel better by going through all of this drama. then walk away. ignore them. show them that they mean NOTHING to you. show them that they are worthless pieces of s*it and have nothing. don't be scared of them. be strong, courageous, show them that you're the boss and that they are little miniture rats who are just waiting to be crushed one day. sorry if thats a little extreme ha ha but just give them their own medicine. ya know? you don't have to be overly mean.. but just make them realize that they are literally nothing and they shouldn't think they're "all that".
2. as for you and that guy who is dating megan.. i would back off. he's in a relationship. especially since its with the girl who is harassing you. if you interfere with their relationship, it could cause MAJOR drama between you and megan. so just make everything like a bajillion times easier and back off. i'm guessing you're still a young teenager. he's probably not even worth it in the first place. if it was worth it, fate will find a way to bring you 2 together. but as of now, i would just stay out of it and dont meddle/interfere.
3. as for the other guy who likes you. just talk to him nicely one day (in person) and say "hey look. i know you like me more than friends but i was actually hoping of just a friendship. i hope thats ok with you. sorry" yeah you might hurt his feelings, but thats the way life works.. you can't please everyone. you're always gonna end up hurting or disappointing someone. even the ones you love the most. i would know because i've done it before and it sucks. he will learn to deal though. life is tough. he's gonna get many many more rejections in life. tougher ones like job interviews or other things. he will learn from it and life goes on.
good luck and inbox me if you have more questions!
PS: if they keep harassing you, id talk to someone about it. your parents, a teacher, a school counselor...
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