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How do i get my mom to let me on birth control?
so my boyfriend and i are becoming more and more sexually invloved. we really love each other. i am soo scared of becoming pregnant it's frightening. i don't wanna have a child at 15 or even think about it. yes, i am a virgin. i'm 5'2" and i weigh about 107 lbs. i want to get on birth control right away... i need to find an excuse for my mom to let me; i only get my period once a year. i've only every gotten it twice. once in jan 09 for a week and the second time in jan '10 for a week. now it is december '10. my mom says that she doesn't want me getting on any pills. idk why though but i needddd to prevent stuff....... help please any other good excuses???
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Being old enough to be your grandfather I am going to offer some straight talk grandfatherly advice.
First I want to say how proud I am of you that you are putting responsible sex ahead of your feelings. This is a sign of great maturity. Being mature is one thing, being old enough for a responsible sexual relationship is another. At the end of my advice to you I will place a link to a website I would like you to look at. It is all about a first sexual experience and is better at saying things than I ever can say it.
Not being a doctor I am not sure that a responsible medical practitioner would offer you birth control pills until your periods are more regular. This is a discussion you and your doctor should have for some of the reasons others have stated. I would like to suggest that you continue to keep your mother informed about your bodies maturing as she is the best source of information you have.
I know you have this before but it is worth saying again: We were not born parents, we were all teenagers ourselves and have gone through what you are going through.
If you tell us what is happening we can tell you if it is normal or if we need to seek a doctors opinion. There is nothing new out there; your mother fought off boys when she was your age and your father did his best to get in girls pants when he was your age. It is a normal hormonal reaction to changes brought on by puberty. Mom may even enjoy reliving her youth through you while helping you develop the skills to fend off the grouping by hormonally charged young men. Hence the word horny.
When I was your age there was a saying that the best birth control pill was an aspirin held firmly between the girls knees. That saying is still true today. There are other ways to satisfy the sexual urges you are both feeling without running the risk of pregnancy. Fingering, hand-jobs, blow-jobs, mutual masturbation which is fingering and hand-jobs done to each other at the same time.
A girls best protection against unwanted pregnancy is not a birth control pill. It is her pants and panties held firmly in their proper place. While I am on the subject of protection; even if you are on birth control you must always use a condom to protect against an STD. BUT WE ARE BOTH VIRGINS: Does not matter. Start using condoms with your first sexual experience and make it a practice you do not stop until you are in a true monogamous relationship such as marriage.
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Period regulation is the best reason I can think of to suggest it. I would approach this from a "I'm not sexually active, but I will be someday. I want to know what birth control I need to use and have experience with what it does to me. Now is a good time to start, in case one prescription has side effects I don't want to deal with and I want to switch. When the time comes, I'll be prepared" argument.
If that doesn't work, google planned parenthood and get a ride up to the one closest to where you live. See what help they can offer, they might be able to get you pills for like 9-12 bucks a month. Don't know if they need parental permission for that or not.
You're going to make the choices you're going to make, whether she likes it or not. Good on you for choosing to be safe first, even if she's trying to prevent it. Planned parenthood will have the best info on how to get around your mom legally so you can protect yourself.
Don't forget condoms. Even on birth control, use condoms.
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okay i need to ask you one thing...
do you think you should be having sex with your boyfriend knowing that you dont feel right asking your mother to put you on birth control. I know that you dont wanna hear this but you are too young to be having sex and you should think about having sex....and you should wait but if you wanna have sex you can talk to your mother or you should go to planned parenthood and get your own. If you would like me to help you anymore you can visit my column or e mail me @ penpaperaddict@gmail.com...
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