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My friend is unfaithful to his girlfriend (sort of)
My male friend has been dating this girl for quite a long time now, probably about a year and a half or two years. I (and all my friends) have met her and we like her a lot!
The problem is this: whenever she isn't around and he has had a couple of drinks, he makes a move on almost any female, available or not (including myself)! I'm not sure if he has ever gone past the point of just being drunk and creepy because most people know he is in a relationship, but I know for sure that once he gave his class ring away to a girl and was regretful the next day.
I guess I am just wondering what you would do in this situation. I don't think that his girlfriend deserves to be treated this way, but I also don't think it is appropriate for me to say anything. I mean, I would want to know if my boyfriend was acting like that but still, I have elected not to say anything because I don't think it is my place. I am wondering if this is the right decision.
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well since he is your friend, you need to be completely honest with him and tell him straight up that what he is doing is wrong and he has an amazing girl who loves him so its not worth flirting with other girls when you have someone great.
explain this to him in nice, respectful, sincere way and he will hopefully thank you for opening his eyes.
goodluck !
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I think it's perfectly appropriate for you to tell him, as a friend, that his behaviour makes you (his friend) uncomfortable, and that you've noticed a pattern that you want to make sure he is aware of.
I agree that you shouldn't speak to her. That isn't your place. Imgaining that maybe he has cheated, or will cheat, is not kind or respectful of your friend.
However, you are free to tell a friend that you are worried about them, or disappointed in them. You are free to say "Dude, you know I'm your friend and I adore you, but I've noticed this pattern of behaviour in you, and I want to make sure you know about it too, because it's not cool or fun to be around."
He isn't being unfaithful. He is being an irresponsible drunk. As someone he enjoys getting drunk with, it is your place to speak up and say "When you get wasted you tend to do X, and X sucks."
Only, of course, if you want too.
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