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I am afraid for my boyfriend's safety!
Okay so me and my boyfriend (we'll call him matt) were hanging and his bestfriend, we'll call him pete, comes over with like eighty rolls of toilet paper to tp this kid we all three hate, we'll call him brett. He's just an ass and drew like dicks all over petes and matts cars last week so he wanted to get him back and asked matt to help him. So we go over to the bretts house and were tping and what not and brett comes running out of the hosue and grabs me. I obviously try to get away but hes much much bigger than me and pulls me into his house (his parents were out of town) and locks the door. He puts me in the coat closet and puts a cabinet infront of the door. He calls Matt and tells him to clean it all up or he won't let me go. He goes on to tell him that if they try anything he'll "gladly think of some ways to have some fun" with me... Eventually its all cleaned up and he lets me out. But before he lets me out of the closet he tells me to take off my panties and give them to him. I'm pretty much scared shitless so I do what he says and then he puts me outside. Everythigs just all messed up now...! I feel really really violated and I'm worried about my boyfriend and brett getting into it or something... They're both on the football team so I dont want matt getting hurt in practice and I'm scared this little war thing has gone too far because we didnt know brett was this crazy and that someones gonna get hurt but I don't know what to do or how to help... Advice??? (I'm fifteen, sophomore. My bf and the other two guys, sixteen juniors)
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"Brett's" overreaction should be a serious matter of concern. As has been pointed out, this was kidnapping and sexual harassment.
Please tell your parents and keep yourself as far ayay from him as possible.
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I am old enough to be your grandfather so my advice is going to be somewhat parental in nature.
When Brett demanded your panties that was a form of sexual harassment, close to rape. Locking you in a closet and threatening to keep you there until his yard was cleaned up is unlawful detention and kidnapping; these are serious charges much more serious than TPing his yard. For you, your boyfriend or his friend to say something to him about the seriousness of what he has done to you will mean nothing to him, I'm sure.
What you need to do is inform your parents of what happened. Let them decide what to do. What Brett did was very, very wrong. Holding someone against their will is very scary for the person and extremely dangerous. No one knows what Brett would have done to you had your boyfriend not cleaned up the yard to Brett's satisfaction.
You were not harmed this time; nothing says that the next time something happens that Brett doesn't like, that he won't harm the next person he decides to detain for revenge.
I am again suggesting that you inform your parents and that they inform the police. This is a police matter and they should handle it from here. Intervention now will may save someone from harm in the future as well as correcting Brett's behavior now before he has the opportunity to harm some one.
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Hi there,
I am sorry this happened. This question is way more important than your boyfriend getting hurt on the football field. What you have here is something that you ABSOLUTELY MUST go to the police about.
I know you are embarrassed, and you don't want to make more trouble... BUT, this guy, Brett, Committed at least two crimes taking you into the house and restraining you. When you go to the police, tell them about the panty situation for sure. Don't leave that out. I am no lawyer, or cop, but that sounds a lot like sexual assault and kidnapping for starters.
No sane person handles this the way Brett did. I believe you DO have something further to fear from Brett, and if you don't go to police with this... then when he does something else to you guys the police will think it is his first offense because they have no record of what he already did to you.
This is extremely important!
Please go to the police with this. You are worried about your boyfriend, but YOU are the victim here. You are important, and you must never allow anyone to get away with something like this.
Even if you don't want to for yourself... What if 'he'll "gladly think of some ways to have some fun" with' someone else? What if you not going to the police allows him to rape and assault another girl?
Can you live with that? I hope not.
Please do the right thing here. For yourself, your boyfriend and whoever his next victims will be if you don't do anything.
This is as serious as I have made it sound, I promise you.
I would also get your parents involved before you go to the police. If your parents don't understand the seriousness of this, please have them read my answer here.
Good luck, stay strong and please let me know how things go when you leave feedback.
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