|
from, "happy" friendship to "i don't know" relationship :/
17/F
I have a friend who i've grew up with in a church we still go to. well my b'day was a few weeks ago and the day b4 i broke up with my boyfriend (bf) and about two weeks b4 my friend (lets call him john) broke up with his girlfriend (gf). well for the past month and a 1/2 i havent been to church(i know shame on me, but it's been alot going on), so one last sunday john calls me & fusses at me because i keep saying i'll go but i don't
so john and i wound up talkin all day. during our conversation he told me about the alabama vs. florida football game and how his family is into college football and they have these party's like every saturday, and he invites me and i agreed to go. he also tells me he likes me. (yes i like him) (fast foward) so its saturday and like around 6:00 he sends his sister to come and get me because he had to run and get the food for the "party".
when she comes and get me my mom is ok with me going because she knows i grew up with him & his family in our church. when i get there his whole family is there and i feel almost out of place because i don't see him. so his sister leads me to him and then asks do i wanna go out side, so we go out side. so we walk aroud and then ended up in his back yard talking for like an hour. then he had to run to the store so i rode with him.
when we got back we sat in his truck (for the record i'm 17 he's 16 but he'll be 17 in feb.)so i grab a CD and just poped it in and the only thing that was playing on the CD was slow music. instead of turning we listened to it and kept talking(you may already know where i'm going with this) so john asks me "have you ever wanted to do something but your not sure wat the reaction or after affect will be" i said "yeah i kind feel like that right now" then i aske wat is it you wanna do?" (long story short) he kissed me, even though i liked & wanted to, i pulled away.
well, i tried not to look at him but whin i did "I" kissed him. next thing i knew we were at his cousin's house around the corner having sex... (fast FWD) when we went back to his house everyting was normal except the fact we were trying to hide what just happened. when i left his house we talked that night and we both made the same coment "wow, i can't believe wat happened, we've known each other for so long and... i would've never guessed" so sunday (this past sunday) i go to church, because i made a promise to go, and i'm sitting in the church alone and he walks in and it felt weird to be THERE, NEXT TO HIM... usuall we are trying to keep eachother up but this past sunday we could bearly keep our eyes open. (and if your wondering yes we are "suppose to be" going our/ talking)
so later last night (sunday night) we are on he phone and he says " it felt weird sitting next to you" and i was speachless because i felt the same way. well the thing is every day he texts me even in school and i realized today his signature says "!(SINGLE)!" but i don't know if its "still ther because of his past relationship, or if he only consider us as friends.
i'm sorry my story is so long, but o need answers because i don't know what to do. i feel like if i ask him then our "relatonship" or "friendship" (which ever one we have) will be completely tarnished. so what do i do? please help me, i ned answers, i'm so lost.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Looks like the only way to really know is to ask him. Based on your past with him and the fact that he obviously thinks of you as a sex partner, I'm not convinced you'll like the answers, but at least you'll know.
]
okay well im sorry about your situation and the way you feel. maybe you guys felt like it was werid to sit next to each other in church because you knew what happend before (sex) maybe you both felt some type of guilty do you like him? i think that you should open up to him and tell him how you feel because if you dont it will only make things worst dont make it ovious though jus like work your way around the situation i think that the whole single thing might have been from his past relationship i mean if you guys talk everyday like you said then there must oviously be something there.. if he's who you think he is then if you guys talk about what happend and how you feel then i dnt think that your friendship/ relationship with end i well i hope the best for you i hope i helped (:
]
More Questions: |