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who is the law for anyways
I don't understand how the courts could give coustody to the mother who commetid adultry but in my case that is what happend .I never cheated on my wife .I was always faithful to her just what it said in our vouls .and to top it all off I can't even see my daughter because she has a restraining order on me .she's afraid I would take off with her and never come back .witch I would never do but its real that's what she done and I have to pay child suport 500 a month for a child I can't see .I don't understand it she's hurting me and my daughter .my daughter was real close to me dadys girl I took care of her provided for her loved her and now I'm lost without her .they say life isn't fair but do I deserve this can anyone tell me
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No you do not deserve what has happened. It is unfortunate but unless the mother is seen as totally unfit, meaning she is an alcoholic or on drugs, mentally unstable or physically unable to care for a child, the courts will always award custody to the mother. The law is always one or two steps behind the times although today in the case of child custody they have been leaning more towards joint custody more than single custody.
Since your wife has been granted a restraining order against you for whatever reason getting unrestricted visitation is going to nearly impossible. I would suggest you find a lawyer and have that lawyer petition for supervised visitation. Visitation supervised by someone from family services that can report to the court on the interaction between you and your daughter. A report from family services will have a lot more weight with the court. Your lawyer can also advise you on what you need to do, based on the reason(s) stated in the restraining order to convince the court that you are not a danger to yourself, your child or your ex wife.
It is a shame that a person can go into court, a place where truth is suppose to prevail, lie and cheat to get what they want no matter who they hurt. Lawyers are supposed to protect the system from perjury but turn a blind eye in the name of serving their clients best interest.
Good luck I hope you get to see your daughter.
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Of course you don't deserve it. The fact of the matter is, that some judges are narrow minded, and conservative in thinking. They think that the mother is always the best parent, whatever the circumstances. Of course, this is complete bullsh*t! A Father can be just as good a parent (if not better) as a mother in some circumstances.
You may have just been unlucky in getting a judge like this. Have you tried contacting a lawyer/attorney to ask if you can appeal?
The judge may have thought 'why would someone file a restraining order if they did not feel endangered by the person'. You can try challenging this...and try and get general advice from a lawyer?
Hope I helped, and best wishes :)
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