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i think i might love my pen pal


Question Posted Thursday September 9 2010, 5:28 pm

so i have a pen pal, and he is so interesting and i don't know, i admire him, his thoughts, the way he see's things, i want to just look through his eyes, i always tried to see things the way he see's it, beautiful, take nothing for granted, haha i don't know! so there's a problem, he lives all the way in germany! this probably isn't love, but i haven't felt this way since the last person i loved..and it actually was love in vain, i loved him, but he didn't want me! and for years i never got over him, until i talked to this guy! writing letters to each other, talking about so many things, i just want to be there, i know meeting a person and knowing them is different from the letters, it can just all be an illusion, its aggravating! i have no clue what to do with these emotions, i just have no control! i wonder why i fall in love someone who is really not possible to be with..ughhh!!! i just don't know what to do. i guess i just need some words of wisdom! lol

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maxgrey answered Friday September 10 2010, 11:34 pm:
You don't love him.
You love specific things about his personality.
Love is much different than what you're feeling.
Girls tend to fall in "love" with personalities, with behaviors.
Guys fall in "love" with looks.

Words can be very powerful. For all you know, he could be an awful excuse for a human being, but a brilliant writer. You don't really know who he is. You wouldn't even if you met him in person.
It's impossible to know what another person is feeling deep down.

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ttaayylloorr answered Friday September 10 2010, 11:07 pm:
Well meeting someone new is always fun, even if he does live a long ways away. Talking to him seems very important to you, however you did say yourself that you are aware meeting someone and talking through letters and to complete opposites. My advice, be aware that it would probably never work out relationship wise, and have fun with it. Enjoying talking to him and sharing things with him, and you could possibly even bring up a relationship later on, way later on. As for now, realize that you are just pen pals and enjoy his letters. (:

Hope I could help. (:

---Taylor

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