Hi, I am 18f and I have a boyfriend the same age. He has one type of music that is his favorite, which is metal... and so that is all he listens to. My dilemma is that I don't really like metal (I can listen to it, but I don't care for it) and the music I listen to (pop,rock,country,almost anything but metal ironically), he doesn't really like. How can we make it so that we both like eachothers kind of music so that we are both happy in a vehicle or at a party? I would really love for him to listen to some of my music that has good lyrics, soul, and a catchy beat rather than head banging stuff all the time, you know? Cuz I believe we could connect on another level if we have music that sets the mood for both of us (hard to have a romatic setting with metal music). I do know that if you play your music alot, the other person may eventually like it too... but any other ideas would be appreciated, thanks!
Matt answered Sunday August 29 2010, 3:27 pm: It depends on what subgenre of metal he's listening to, and how far he'd be willing to branch out. He will never enjoy pop, rock, or country, because it's simply not ingrained in him. Your own tastes are much more malleable than his.
So, you should find out what subgenre of metal he listens to and what his favorite bands are, and inbox them to me. From there, I can give you/him some bands that fall into those subs but draw influence from elsewhere and would thus be much more accommodating to your own tastes. It really depends on what he's listening to; is it kvlt and tr00 or is it commercial and impure? Is it sludge, death, black, post, thrash, prog, or is it shit glam and nu? Metal is such a broad genre that it's almost obsolete to leave it standing without a subgenre in front of it, and in this case that is going to make all the difference. [ Matt's advice column | Ask Matt A Question ]
iwantthetruth answered Sunday August 29 2010, 3:08 pm: Hello.
The only thing that I can think of is to find music that is somewhere in the middle.
For example, Lamb of God and Slipknot might be more difficult for you to like, but System of a Down is metal-ish and alternative-ish.
There are also 80's bands like Twisted Sister, Metallica, Faith No More, Guns and Roses, Aerosmith, ACDC, Kiss, Bon Jovi, Led Zeppelin, Quiet Riot, Alice Cooper, Black Sabbath, that are in the Heavy Metal and/or Hard Rock genre. I personally can stand and even enjoy some of these bands very much, and I am definitely in no way, shape, or form a metal-head. Heck, my favorite music is folk :P.
But isn't it nice to find someone who likes different music to introduce you to a new perspective. I say you give his music a chance and also realize that people's taste in music changes over time, so he may eventually like other bands.
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