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He makes me feel empty. I'm confused.
I've been friends with this guy for 3 years and now that I have a boyfriend he's jealous. The thing is before i had a boyfriend we really liked eachother. People mistaken us for a couple because we hang out a lot. I had the guts to ask him out but then he rejected me. Now we can't be friends because he doesn't want to be friends anymore. He's hurt me emotionally and he can tell but he doesn't stop. Now he's telling me and his friends that I'm the one hurting him emotionally and that i was selfish. The guy I'm with is amazing. He respects me and he's very sweet. He doesn't call me names. The other one, my friend, always calls me names and say mean things to me. Now that we aren't friends anymore, i feel more like i'm not myself. Like I'm missing something huge. He's so mean and i told myself that i deserve better than to be called mean names so why do I feel so empty without my friend?
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I think your "friend" needs a reality check. He's mad at you for leaving him for another guy? Well, he had his chance with you, and he decided not to take it, so it's his loss. It's not your fault that he didn't agree to go out with you; you gave him the opportunity, so he should quit the name-calling - because from what you wrote, you've done nothing to deserve that. How can he expect you to just sit around and be friends with him forever when you could be spending time with a guy that respects you and wants to show you that he's interested in you? Like I said, you gave him his chance to date you, and he didn't want to. So I think you're doing the right thing by letting your friend go. If he doesn't want to be friends with you, then that's not your problem because why should you have to settle for a one-sided friendship? You have the right idea when you say that you deserve better.
As far as - why do you feel different - well, it makes sense that you feel empty without him; this guy obviously was a big part of your life for the past three years. But please remember that you're doing the right thing by letting him go because no one deserves to be treated the way he treated you after you got a boyfriend.
(This situation happened to me before, I was friends with this guy...we were inseparable for all of last summer...everyone thought we liked each other, but he never asked me out even though he told me months later that he was going to but HE DIDNT, so...I started dating one of his friends (who was so much more respectful and sweeter all around) and he's still my boyfriend to this day...I am still acquainted with the other guy but like I said, as soon as i got a boyfriend he freaked out just like your friend did...they should have just dated us then if that's what they wanted...we made ourselves available to them but if they dont take the chance then they cant expect us to sit around with them forever!! thats not how it works! )
Good luck...also sorry for bringing my own situation into this!
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Tell him how you feel tell him exactly what you said. Tell him you both liked each other before and why did he reject you if he liked you, tell him that you're with someone who doesn't call you names or make you feel bad and that he had his chance so why didn't he take it? Ask him why he's really being this way. He's probablly just so upset about this and taking it out on you and maybe you feel this way because you need him. :3 It always hurts to lose a friend.
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