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My friend is being annoying
18/f my best friend Nikki is really getting on my nerves. So I used to have this boyfriend who I was like in love with, chase. Chase and I were very close and dated for three years. Nikki and I were not friends when chase and I were together. Nikki has never met chase. But for some reason Nikki always has these stories to tell me about chase. And I've told her I don't care what chase is doing. but she always brings him up. I went to a really big high school. A lot of people don't know eachother. So I know she is bringing him up to people. And people I am friends with at other schools, she's told people she is friends with them. She ha never met my friends from other schools. I don't know why she doe this but I get really upset when she does. And I tell her I don't care to hear it. And she knows the break up with chase was really hard for me, but then yet she always brings him up. I don't know what to say to her.
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Being on the sidlines of a romance can be very exciting. Part of it is sharing in your happiness. Part is just her being courious. Partly it's being involved by having a front row seat. Part of her is also thinking "If my friend can have a romance, so could I." so your love life is a great encourager to her.
I fully understand why this has become annoying to you.
As best as you can, don't react at all to her stories about Chase, but do react as positivly as you can to her, ask her questions and be interested id her for herself.
You are also well within your rights to gently say to her, "NIkki, this break up with Chase has been very hard for me and I think the best way for me to get one is to stop thinking about him and talkiing about him. Can you help me do that buy no longer bringing him up?"
She will almost certainly say yes, and then, should it contnue, you are in a position to say "Remember you agreed to help me get over him."
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I best Nikki is just looking for some attention. Maybe trying to act more popular? or...maybe trying to make you and other people jealous.
If i where you, every time she brings up someone that she obviously doesnt know, just question how she knows them by saying things like:
"Do you even know them?"
"When have you hung out with them before?"
or even..."Who told you that?/Where you even there when that happened?"
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