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ahh what he did to me! ;) want it again..!
Hey! :) So I have to say.. love your advice! And i'm hoping you'll be able to help me out. This may be a bit long but I will appreciate if you can help.
So i'm 20F. Currently don't have a boyfriend. Ok, please don't judge what I want to do I am just asking you to please suggest what I should do to make this happen!
Me and this guy have a great connection. He's sooo cute, and I know he absolutely thinks me and my body are hot haha which is good to know. Well I met him awhile ago and he knew my friend..kinda..and so he told my friend to have me text him because he thought i was just the hottest thing, and had a good feeling about me so i texted him saying hey :) and we talked for a little but he was drinking. well then i find out he forgot to save my number because he was drinking. so anyway this past week or two he was texting my friend and was always asking if she was going to be with me. so last friday, i saw him. long story kinda short :we were in the hot tub, things got steamy we ended up making out and he fingered me. i didn't do anything to him, because i wanted to go back and join the party i think he was kind of mad. later that night i offered to take out the whipped cream even to have fun and he didn't want to!
well he can't text me because he doesn't have my number so I havent really talked to him since that night. it's killing me..i keep thinking about what we did and how he turned me on and i want to do it again!! my parents are leaving in two weeks and i think it'd be fun to have him over but i don't really know how to come about asking him. i don't even know what he thinks about me now?? did he even enjoy the night as much as i did? what if he thinks i'm not willing to please him because i didn't that night? i just think he keeps thinking bad things about me..but thats just me because i'm an insecure person.
don't tell me not to just have a friends with benefits, please. i just don't know what to do?? and i feel weird texting him since he doesn't have my number now! what would i say? i want him to know i want to do more with him and willing, and want him to come over when my parents are gone. Any suggestions??
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Well you'll never know how he feels about you until you talk to him!
Don't fear texting him. If you want to talk to him, just do it! If hw felt a good connection with you that night at the party, I'm sure he'll be more than happy to talk to you.
There's a solid chance that you'll be able to tell if he wants to talk to you just by his responses. And if he IS into you, he'll save your number and text you on a daily basis.
If you want him to come over, it's just as simple to ask him. Just be like, "so my parents are vacationing in 2 weeks and I think it'd be fun if you came over :)".
You can't put negative thoughts in your head because you'll always be sidetracked by them. If he accepts your invitation to come over when your parents are away or any time before/after that, then just do what you want to him--it's up to you what you do to him.
My main advice here is to be careful, safe and don't do anything you don't want :)
I hope I helped!
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Alrighty! well...if you want to find out wat he thought about that night and also about you, ask your friend to get his number, or look him up on facebook and add him as a friend and talk to him there about the whole thing. He could have been mad cause you didnt do anything in return to him that night, but im kinda glad you didnt, cause thats one thing guys all want. they will "finger" you or do things to you, JUST SO THAT AFTER YOULL DO THE SAMETHING TO THEM AND PLEASE THEM. well since you didnt, which isnt bad, he now knows that you arent an EASY ONE! and hell have to work alot harder. You are also keeping him interested! if say you gave him something in return, he might move on to the next girl cause he got wat he wanted from you.
The fact that he didnt want to do anything afterward, well, that could be a number of factors. he could have been tired,felt sick or just maybe he wasnt in the mood. youll never know till YOU ASK HIM. Do all you can to get contact with him and ask him how he thought about the night and tell him wat you told me here how you enjoyed yourself, then hell be interested cause HE made you have a good time.
Now, you can do wat you want, if you want to have friends with benifets, go ahead, if you want to have a relationship, but just have some FUN along the way, thats fine to, its all in wat you are confortable with along with him. SO somehow find his number, go to fb, then simply be blunt and say, hey, so um, i was wondering, how did you feel about that whole thing we did the other night? depending on his answer will determine what happens next. if he says he really enjoyed himself and such, mention something to him along the lines of, "well im gonna be home alone in a few days, i think that if you came we could have some fun", maybe tell him that your willing to do stuff and the will perk him up.
SO, this is all depening on wat he says when you ask him, and plus, this is either over text or computer, so if he says well im not that interested then its no bigger. Move one, find another guy, there are plenty of stars in the sky. Just be calm and yourself when you ask him. IM gonna guess hell come to your house, but thats my idea lol. Well hopefully this helps you. Let me know what happens!! If you have any more questions let me know and id be glad to help ya! Good luck!
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