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Please tell me....
I would like to know why men have such crazy sexual fantasies. I mean i can understand some but lately i have been talking to my boyfriend and some of his friends about it (awkward) and things they said they'd like to do were either pretty extreme or just really weird and out there. I mean i understand it to a point but why are men so into the role playing? Is it for more excitement or do they think it's normal? haha I'd just like to hear some other peoples point of veiws on this. Thanks :)
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rule 1: men are visual creatures. we see it in our mind's eye and if it appeals to us, then generally we tend to act on it.
rule 2: women are visual and mental and question the actions/motives of their male counterparts...they want to know the reasons behind such an action and often will ask, "why do you like this or that?"
bottom line: make sure you are comfortable with whatever idea your partner has in mind, that it is not degrading or something you will regret or just laugh about in a month...
be honest with each other...
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Both men and women can have some crazy sexual fantasies actually! I guess it depends on each person as an individual. A lot of times the fantasies people have never really play out into their real sex life, it is just a mental stimulation people use to get their sex drive going. You can't judge a guy on his sexual fantasies, I know many very sweet respectful guys who have the CRAZIEST ideas in the bedroom, haha.
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Hello. I'm a twenty five year old female and I'd like to know why I have such crazy sexual fantasies!
Sorry - It is very easy to think of this as a 'male thing', because it's sooooo much more socially acceptable for men to talk about their fantasies, explore and discover more through porn and other solo activities, and have all this behavoir excused as merely the 'macho guy' thing to do - even be celebrated for it.
So this is my point of view...
It's easier and cooler for guys to develop and talk about their sexual fantasies. So, they tend to discover theirs earlier in their lives (or learn to make them up in those conversations to appear 'cool').
It's not that they have so many more than women might - it's that they are encouraged to talk about them and think about them in a way women are not.
Most of the adult women I know also have some crazy, out-there fantasies, but generally figured them out later on in their lives. They weren't encouraged in the same way as young as their male counterparts where.
So why do men like role playing? Well, some genuinely like it. Others think they should like it 'cause other guys do. I'm sure some think it's normal and others like it cause they think it's abnormal!
What is comes down to in the end, is that if you are interested in an honest, thorough exploration of your sexuality, most people will come up with some nutty scenarios that turn them on. It doesn't mean they want to act it out necessarily, it just means that particular act or thoughts really arouses them.
Guys just tend to get a huge head start on this because (one) they do, generally, have higher sex drives at younger ages and (two) it's culturally acceptable for them to have those conversations and explorations as teens and young men.
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