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Teacher/student
I'm in the marching band at school. I am fifteen and in the high school band now. But when I was in the jr high band, everyone thought me and my band director were doing it. We were close, he was like a second dad to me. He was 27 when I had him. I didn't think anything of the way we acted. I just felt.. Comfortable aroud him. Now that I look back on it, it was kinda strange, I mean, he was and still is married but when I was late for a class I didn't ask that teacher to write me a pass, or when I did and they didn't so it for me, he would. He would be walking out of the band room with his lap top and I'd he saw me instead of saying hi, we would have a conversation. when I wanted to skip a class, he would always let me, he'd wrote a pass excusing me from class and I would go to the band room to practice. He always called me by my last name so one day I was like "ya know what, I'm gonna call you by your first name." and I did, hen we were in his office talking or something I would call him his first name but when we were with other students he would tell me to call him mr. __ and I did. The day my friend (she plays the same instrument as i do) started thinking our relationship was weird, was in sectionals one day. We were going over this one part and I coulnt get it. I finally got it and I slapped his thigh in excitement not even thinking and Im not sure he realized because he wasn't like ahem or moved it, he just congratulated me and from then on, she thought we were beyond student\teacher boundaries. He had since had his first child when I left for the sr high. But from what I said, do you think we were beyond student\teacher boundaries? And
what leads you to believe what you do? Thanks.
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I'd say you were crowding the line. More accuratly, I think he was crowding the line. No booundries were torn down, but things would have been better for both of you if you both took a step backwards.
I'm a former high school teacher. I think it's best for everyone if there is a bright line between students and teachers because then it's less likely for either to inadvertently cross a line. When you see him again, call him Mr.
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everyone has a teacher or some teacher they are more close to than others. i could tell my english/drama/science teachers practically anything. but my mat teacher or my media teacher. i arely talked to tem about anything, barely even my school work!
i think you went over the line a little bit. however you never know he might have done that with other students too. its not unuasual for som teacher to "favoritse" some talented pupils and give them some advantages. for example late passes.
oh and i think you went over the line from the leg thing.. before that bit i thought you were fine.
in future maybe if your worried about people saying that sutffbe careful what kind of stuff you say to teachers and that =)
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You went past most schools and cultures teacher/student bounderies. However, it doesn't sound like there was anything praticularly meancing about them...
There are a few reasons I would say not too worry about it. The first one is that you aren't really worried about it! You didn't say anything about a crush, or inppropraite compliments or even really inapropraite touching, you just developed a friendship that was a bit closer than students and teachers are generally expected to have.
You did go past the bounderies a bit, and he probably could have handled it a bit better, but that doesn't mean there was anything wrong or dirty about your friendship. If you feel positively about it, go one feeling positively about it, and don't worry too much about what other people might think.
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