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do i like him?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a month. The problem is I feel like I've lost that feeling of 'like' for him. I care about him tremendously and he is really good to me, but I just don't know what to do. I love hanging out with him and he makes me happy but I would feel horrible if I stayed with him for those reasons and not because I really liked him.
My question is did you lose that initial crush feeling you had with a boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you think I should end the relationship? Thank you!
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I've done the same thing to 2 different guys and being so young then ( i was 12 and 13) I just ended the relationship but i too believe you should stay together =)
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I have learned a lot about human attraction from science because feelings can be understood in biological terms. It is a fact that brain chemicals that create romantic bliss disperse after a little while. No doubt in my mind this is what is happening. However I also don't doubt your boyfriend is a good guy who cares about you. I would not recommend breaking it off right away but remember all relationships based solely on attraction burn out to some extent. For a relationship to work there must be other reasons to stay together besides pure attraction.
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Personally, I have lost that initial crush with boyfriends. But in my case, it's mostly because I'm a complete commitment-phobe. So I want the guy loads, until we're together and I freak out. It's not that the feelings are gone though.
It could be the same for you, though. If it is, try to work through the problem.
The initial crush thing does go for everyone though. When you first meet someone, it's crazy and lusty and you don't see any of their faults. As you spend more time with them, because it's not so new anymore, the rush goes, and as you learn more about them and notice their bad points, the excitement can go. But it doesn't mean the feelings are gone, it's just different.
It could be that way for you, or of course, you could just not have feelings for him anymore.
Stay with him for a bit longer, and try to shake things up and bit and introduce more excitement. If you still don't feel like you have any feelings, say you feel it's going to fast (or something along those lines) and can you take a break. If you do get that 'feeling of like' back, then stay with him.
If, when taking a break, you don't miss him or feel you want to be with, then yes you should end it. Because you shouldn't stay with someone just because you like hanging out with them. Maybe give it a while then try to be friends.
If, however, when taking a break you suddenly realise you do want to be with him, make sure it's not just a case of 'wanting it because you don't have it anymore', and if it isn't, suggest to him that you feel ready now.
Don't be hasty in ending it, because you need to work out why you're feeling this way. Do the above and you'll probably work it out, and figure out what your feelings for him are and whether you should stay together or not.
Hope I helped, x
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