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Is the "master of one's domain" also a cheater?
I'm a 21 year old guy and I live with my 19 year old girlfriend. She's furious with me right now because she caught me um, well... let's just say I would've lost the contest on a certain episode of Seinfeld. She considers that cheating, which blows my mind. I mean I love having sex with her, but that other, well, it kinda has it's own little niche in my life. How can I tell her it was nothing against her, and make it up to her?
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I love the wording of this question. Seriously love it.
I think the problem your girlfriend has is that she doesn't really understand what masturbation means to you. Most women seem to think it's a replacement for sex, and that if you're doing it then she's not fulfilling your urges.
You've got to explain to her that it's not about sex. It's about being in touch with your own body (pun not intended, but kind of funny nonetheless). Sometimes you just don't want sex, but you want that relaxation. Explain that it doesn't impact your sex life with her in the slightest, and if anything it enhances it because you're not draping yourself all over her every time you have an urge.
Now, if she's just having a problem with any potential viewing material of yours, see if you can get some risque pictures of her to substitute. It's a nice way to keep her involved ;)
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Wait, so she is mad at your for masturbating?
If that is seriously the case, thats bizarre that she is mad at you. I've never heard of people not masturbating just because they are in a committed relationship. Sometimes people just are not in the mood for the whole sex thing but want to get off, or they are just in the mood to pleasure themselves. After all, masturbating and having sex are completely different experiences so it all comes down to what you feel like right then. lol.
I know my boyfriend and I both masturbate and it doesn't bother either of us at all.
Hope that helps.
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You're not cheating on your girl. She sounds insecure that she's not satisfying you and that you have to relieve some tension without her.
Assure her that you love her and that she satisfies you, and explain to her that sometimes you just need to get the job done yourself. You can have the most amazing sex life ever and still need to relieve some pressure once in a while.
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