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I need help. My mother past on now and I don't know what to do.
Ok I feel like I'm livin my life on my own.and its hard I feel like I have to do everything around the house I feel like people don care.my aunt made me babysit because I kan helop her out. With stuff and I don't think that's right because she had two sons and she makes them do nothing .I really don't like telling people anything these days I don cry I keep it in.because it really noone business.I try hard to live life rite because my mother ain't her she past on.I jus need help
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
First let me offer my condolences on the passing of your mother. I know how hard this must be for you; while you will always miss your mother the hurt you feel at the moment will eventually ease and you will be able to get on with your life. Grieving is a natural part of life so do not try to hold it in let it out and let others know you are hurting.
It is somewhat of a challenge to answer your question as you have not given your age or why or if you are actually living with your Aunt. Your letter sounds somewhat like the Cinderella story. As to why your aunt makes you do things; she may feel that if she keeps you busy you will not have the time to think about your mom and therefore not feel so alone. Good thought but wrong answer. As I said everyone grieves in their own way and they need to go through the process. There are actually 9 steps to grieving, I will not list them all, included in them are anger. At some point in the process you will get angry with your mother for leaving you. Again this is a natural part of grieving.
Being able to talk with someone not part of your family will definitely help you. There are counselors who are specially trained to help in grief counseling. Your family doctor should be able to recommend someone. You are obviously not old enough to live on your own although you did not say why you are living with your Aunt and not your Father or a Grandparent. A grief counselor can help you here as well if this is one of the problems you’re dealing with. Also anything you and your counselor discuss is totally confidential and cannot be discussed with your Aunt without your permission; even though you may be a minor and she if your Guardian.
So talk to your Aunt and if you think speaking with a grief counselor will help ask her to help you find one. Your visits will be covered by most insurance companies, especially if you are referred by your family doctor.
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I know it's hard. Pull your Aunt to the side and talk to her and let her know how you feel about how you fel like your doing everything while noone else does nothing. If she doesnt do anything about it. Stop doing it and let it just it stay there. If your aunt tells you to do it. Tell her no and tell her to have one of her sons to do it. They need to learn responsablity. If she still says for yyou to do something. Tell her that she is not your mother and she has no right for her to tell you what to do. Especially if she isnt ur legal gaurdian.
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