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My husband is cross with me because I have to go away
I have to go away for 14days to sort out some documentation work for my daughter. We have talked about this for the last week and now when it is time for me to go now it is going to be a huge problem. Why you may ask me, but it is because he will be left with our 2 boys. WE were told that the process will take 10 working days which will put me away from home roughly 2 weeks if not a bit more provided all goes well. Now his problem his he thought the process will take 48hours. Slight difference to to 10 days. His life will be disrupted because he will have to take the boys to and from school. He is away from me 90% of the time and I am left with no vehicle and I am expected to do all this yet I cannot say anything. What am I supposed to do? We are married and have been for 8 years.
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well it sounds like he will miss you, really even if he does not say it, and he does not want extra work really, but if its important to you to do this trip then do it he should understand if you want to do something, and let you do it,
it may be good for him to do some of the work with the kids a little more time bonding, and they may enjoy it all biys together, i think you should go on this trip as it sound like you want/need to go other wise you would not have wrote this on this website,
so i think you should go whats the worst that could happen its only for 2 weeks and then life will go back to the way it was
hope this helps
good luck and i hope the trip goes well and the kids are good for their dad,
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You go and get the documentation work done for your daughter.
He bitches and moans - and just sucks it up and deals with it while you are away.
I understand this feels very difficult, and there is probably a great deal of anger and arguing right now, but it's not like he's going to turn around and say "You can't go deal with your daughter!" Is he? That would be lunacy on his part. That would be a horrific thing for him to try and do.
It IS stressful to be left alone with children for an extended period of time (as you well know). It's even more stressful when you are unaccustomed to it. So let your husband complain and do some (non-violent) raging. Then expect him to suck it up and cope.
If he is a decent person, and a loving co-parent, he WILL suck it up and cope. He might complain and bitch, but he'll do it.
If there is anyone else in your life you can beg and plead to support him, two or three days a week even. Or to bring over meals, wait until he calms down a bit and suggest those sorts of plans to him. If not, tell him very firmly that you understand and appreciate that it will be very difficult and disruptive for him, but that you also know he can and will do it.
Be clear, be respectful, and be firm.
It's hard for him. Maybe very hard. But very doable. And it is what this family requires right now. So he needs to find the strength to manage it.
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