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Why is this happening to me?
16/f
Lately I noticed I am low on self-esteem often.Like,the smallest thing can make me insecure.I am usually very confident,because I'm really good-looking and smart.I am afraid when this happens,because I set an example for a lot of my friends out there and if they saw me get all insecure and scared they'd be lost,they always say that seeing me all so confident and bold helps them go through the hard things in their lives.I think it may be related to my bf.I'm always afraid he won't like me once we get to bed,even though he always says I'm gorgeous and that he loves how I look.I wanna get rid of this stupid feeling I get.What can I do to stop this from happening? I've had enough of it for a lifetime.
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I'm the same way. I think that you sound like a leader, and a great human being, but you are just that, human. You don't have to be perfect. I know I built up walls so people don't see me when I'm not doing awesome... because I want people to see strong me, because a lot of people look up to me. But honey, that could kill ya. Talk to a close friend, a mother, etc. Tell them how you feel about your confidence. Maybe they can help you remember how great you are.
And if your boyfriend loves you, you'll be fine. He will definitely still like you, and even if you weren't great, honestly guys aren't picky in bed. Just relax a little. Guys sense nervousness. He likes that fearless part about you I'm sure. =)
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I think the feeling you have may be a teenage thing, I felt that way when I was younger and the more I got to know myself, figure out who I was, and became secure with myself I no longer cared what other people thought because when it came down to it, I liked myself. I'd say read up on some self discovery and self esteem books, it seems odd but it might be the root of your problem. Books like that are also just good for healthy mental development. You might also try making a list of things you like about yourself. Good Luck!
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