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i really want to know if i should give him a chance or not.
Okay so this is basically goin to be the story of my life, haha.
Jk, the story of my past last four years, i have always been a social butterfly and that's how i met my boyfriend he was not so good looking and i always thought i was pretty good looking i had never gone out with a guy i didnt physically find attractive but my friends begged me they said he was really nice.when we got in the relationship he would always check out other girls n point out how much hotter they were so i became extremely jealous i would not let him talk to girls or have a myspace or facebook or go in out or anything he would always do it behind my back anyway go out and stuff and i would cry everyday because of stuff he would say or do so he stopped checking out girls but he did everything behind my back and then we lived like that for four years i stopped talking to all my friends because i was always with him and i thought he did too and then recently i found a bunch of porn on his computer i broke up with him and was devastated because he always told me he would never look at the other girls cause i was the hottest and prettiest, he was my first and i was his first. then i wanted to change so i started to change when i kinda got over the porn thing because he said it was his first time.then i got on his tmobile account and saw he would talk to alot of numbers so i asked him about it and he admitted some were girls and he would talk to them a lot more than me then shortly after he told me he had a facebook and he met them all on facebook they were his old friends and then i broke up with him a week before my graduation and i have no friends now and i feel so lonely.he was the only person always there for me. idk if i should get back with him after a while but he told me he did flirt with girls and when i call him now that we are not together he yells and gets mad he doesnt want to talk to me but he says he still likes me and i just dont know how to move on i just graduated from high school and the night i broke up with him i fell down some stairs and broke my ankle so i quit my job because all these things were happening so i thought i needed some time but now i feel miserable alone and find myself calling him all the time idk if i should get back with him i doubt he ever cheated but he talked to a couple of girls all day and he works nights and he would stay up when he got home from work talking to them(sometimes not even sleep) and he would tell me he was asleep or while at work he would not call me during his breaks because he lied and said his phone was dying, but in his tmobile i found out he was talking to them a lot. :( WAS IT THE RIGHT THING TO DO? how do i meet new people? i dont have friends what can i do in my spare time to not think about him or call him?!:(
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YES! You did do the right thing! He shouldn't have been talking to other girls all night and he especially shouldn't have been lying to you about it. I know you feel lonely and like you lost your whole life (I've been there too..) but he was not the right guy for you. Would your dream guy hurt you like that?!? NO!! Trust me, he's out there and you will find him.
You were with him for a long time...so now you need to learn how to be single again! I know you had friends before him, so call them up. It might be kind of awkward or weird at first but just call them. Or maybe someone you used to talk to in class but never really hung out with. It just takes a few phone calls or texts or even write on their facebook wall or something asking them to hangout!
Also, when your ankle heels get a job where a lot of people your age work- like a grocery store, mall, or a food place! Work is a great place to meet friends! You might even meet a guy you like.
There is also a lot of stuff you can do to star distracted! Go to the gym (another place to meet cute guys- that are in shape!), read books, learn to cook, do crafts, bike ride, or volunteer at an animal shelter! Be creative...just DON'T call this guy. Whatever you do...don't call him!
Your ex seems like a jerk. You deserve better..you really really do. Keep your chin up :)
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This seems like a lot happening at once, and I'm sorry you have to go through it.
First of all, it was right for you to break things off with him. He's not a good guy. Any guy that hurts you time after time doesn't love you. And after all, look at everything you just wrote: He has
done very little good for you. You gave him everything, and he gave you little. And besides, you said he wasn't that good looking anyway.
You've graduated from high school, so there is a lot you can do. Get a job that interests you. Check the newspapers, etc. Try joining a class, like dancing and aerobics, so you can work out and maintain that hot bod and make some new friends. Losing your friends must have been hard, but life goes on. They obviously weren't your friends at all. Go to clubs, the park, roller skating rink, classes, work, etc. and look for people that interest you. Join a website like hotornot.com . Regain your confidence because I'm sure you are a gorgeous girl.
Honey, forgetting about him will take time and be hard, especially since you were with him for so long, but it's not impossible.
At one point you'll find your prince and forget about that loser. :)
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