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My mom refuses to go grocery shopping and I am starving!
My mom refuses to go grocery shopping. Its been this way since i was in like...fifth grade. I am now 19. I remember as a child going to school, and not having lunch, or any lunch money, and just sitting there starving while all of my friends ate there lunches.
Were pretty well off, we have a large house and plenty of money, so I dont understand what her problem is. Just know i asked her if we were going to go grocery shopping anytime soon, and she told me to go buy food. Its getting pretty rediculous. My little brother is still in school, and he has to buy his food himself. I just dont think this is normal. We all have jobs, and normally I go buy my own food, but she never has dinner on, and if she does its the smallest portions ever.
What should I do? My car broke down so I dont have a way to go buy food, and I havnt eaten in 2 days.
This really sucks.
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Hi there,
You know this isn't the first time I have heard of this situation. I have a friend who's aunt used to watch her as a child/teen and she literally kept a few things that she liked locked away for herself, but everyone else including her minor children and those she "watched" had to fend for themselves.
This could be a serious mental health issue, not saying it is, but your Mom should seek counseling.
I am guessing from your question that there is a great deal more to this story and I am sorry you have to deal with it. If you need any other help, please let us know.
As for you needing to eat right now:
Once you have identified that this is the way things are, at least for now, you have to accept it and figure out what you are going to do.
Transportation:
If you have nobody that can take you to the store, or you are trying to hide this from your friends, here are my suggestions:
Is there a market within walking distance? How about within biking distance? You only need a few things to get by with for a day or two while you ponder a better way to handle things.
Do you have a bus route nearby? If so, just get on it and see where it goes, or better yet... ask the driver if they go by a market or grocery store on their route. They will know, trust me the route is etched into their brain forever. :-)
No bus? Ok then, get yourself the phone book and call a taxi. It doesn't cost as much as you would think, unless you live far away from town.
Listen, I know this is kind of embarrassing, but you know... your friends are friends for a reason and this is one of the things that any real friend would not only want to know about but also insist on helping you through.
When I was 18, just turning 19 I was in my own apartment and had a serious issue come up that left me broke and without vehicle. I had everything else paid, and the problem would only last a month, but I ran out of food. Finally, I called a friend and asked if he could loan me $20 and take me to the store.
He showed up, took me to the store and just told me to buy what I needed for a month. It ended up being a lot more than $20.
I paid him back, and all was well. I never forgot that, and I have paid that forward at every chance since.
Please trust a friend with this.
Oh, assuming you are near the usual things: You are hungry right now. You need to eat... right now. Pick up the phone and call your local pizza place. If you have a chain nearby, they usually have specials that will make it pretty cheap. Don't like pizza? How about calling the Chinese place?
Juat as a note... the pizza places usually have a lot of things beside pizza. Example: When I had a car failure and didn't want to bother anyone else, I used to have Little Caesar's deliver me a large salad made just the way I liked it.
Oh, and the delivery idea is really a good one for right now. You don't want to get on a bus when you haven't eaten in a couple days. Passing out is uncool.
Once your belly is full, and you have had some sleep, figure out what to do and then go out and do it.
Anyway, I hope this will inspire you to take things into your own hands until you can convince your mom that she could be doing better by you and your brother.
Take care please.
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oh dear!does she not buy grocery food because she thinks you have money and is able to buy your own?thats mean and selfsih of your mother to not think of her son that is still in school!This is how children start to steal and get in trouble with the law...are you able to bus?or walk to the store??maybe ask if you can borrow her car since she doesnt want to go get food herself?have you asked your friend for a ride?or soemtimes you can order groceries online and have them delievered to your house.im not sure where you live but in New Zealand some grocery stores will do that for you...let me know what happens
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This isnt normal. Your Mother needs professional help, seriously. Look into some consueling for her. The food thing, maybe you can ask some neighbors if they can spare you something.
She really does need help. Please message me with updates if you can. =/
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