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what to do about my parents and college...
So im going to college this fall. Ive always wanted to go to this one college, LEE, along with my parents. but i feel its turned more into their dream then mine. I have a long distant relationship (for 2 yrs) and want to go to a community college where he is(im 18 almost 19 and hes almost 20), to save money too. I found out im paying for all my college. And the Communtiy college is half the price of LEE. Id go to the college for general education then go to LEE, and while doing GE id be getting some classes for my major out of the way. but id be living with my boyfriend and my dad is a pastor so thats another problem. I recently moved in with my boyfriend but moved back home for college and now i think it was a very bad idea. cus i wanna go back and i know theyll hate im moving back with him and not going to LEE. what do i do? i dont want to go to LEE right now. And its all they talk about.
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let your parents no that right now LEE is not the best option for you. show your parents how responsible you are, which could get some of that not trusting thing off your back. your almost 19 which makes you an adult. and if your paying for all of college by your self let them no that this is what you want to do. let them in on all the benifets that this community college is going to give you. show your parents how great the school is. but let them no that in the end this is your decision. why go to a school were your not happy? :)
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Your parents love you more than anything on this earth. You won't fully understand the depth of their love until you become a mother yourself one day. Until then, you have to try to understand where they're coming from. They understand that what you're doing is a mistake and they want to see you succeed in every way. They know living with your boyfriend is not a good idea, not just because of the religious aspect, but on a more personal level as well. That being said, you're an adult now and you're paying your own bills and you need to be able to make your own decisions. You need to sit down with them during a calm time, a time of peace, when you're not arguing. Maybe even plan a family dinner out or something. Tell them you understand they love you and only want the best for you and you know why they don't approve of your plans, but tell them you need to be able to make your own mistakes and find your own path in life. Tell them that they have to trust that the training they gave you while raising you will be enough to carry you through tough times. Ask them to let you become an adult and make your own decisions, even though its going to be hard for them. Tell them you appreciate hearing their opinions, but when it starts to feel pushy it makes you feel defensive. Look, I happen to agree with your parents, but the fact is, its your choice and as long as you're not accepting financial help from them, they really have no choice but to let you make your own decisions. I wish you the best.
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