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I didn't think so.
I have a best friend. We are both fifteen and in tenth grade. I am female, he is male. Let me tell you a little bit about us. We met in third grade and have been friends since. Every time I'm sad and I'm talking to him on the phone or something and I tell him I'm upset or he guesses, he plays his guitar for me because he knows I like that. I pack my lunch in school and every day I pack a six pack of cracker, peanut butter and I give them to him because that's his favorite kind. The other day, I was at a benefit concert and there was this cute boy there. Turns out, he's friends with my friend. So I texted my friend and told him he was cute and he texted back "yea, you told me.." and we got to talking about him and after the second time I said that I thought he was cute he said "I don't know what to say to that.." so then we stopped talking and then my friends were like "he's jealous! he so loves you!" and I was just like "nah, he's my buddy." The other day, he did the same thing, he was telling me about this girl that he liked and I didn't know what to say either but I was saying more than he did and I was helping him out and telling him that she's a good person, but she's taken, so I was telling him he kinda needed to forget about her. Last night, my mom and I went to watch Promenade at my school and we were walking out and she said "So, you're going with (my best friend) right?" and I was like "eh, we'll probably both have significant others by then" and she looked at me and said "yes. each other. I see how you smile when he texts you first. I see how you always remember to pack his crackers. I see the way his crappy attitude changes when he's talking to you. I just secretly think, deep down inside of both of you, you two adore each other, but you don't want to ruin your friendship. I also see how whenever his brother makes him think he isn't good enough, you always talk him out of thinking that and make him feel twenty times better. Third grade! Friendships usually don't last that long but look at you guys! Seven years!" The weird thing about all of this is EVERYONE I know thinks we love each other, too. Someone actually said to me "everyone can see you two love each other.. except you two." However, every time someone says something to us about it, we say no, no that's not true. We're both just good friends. No big deal. So! In conclusion, do you think we do "love" each other? and if so, why do we avoid it and push it away every time it is brought up? I know these are questions we should be able to answer ourselves but we're just at a loss. Thanks for any help you give me! ♥
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I think you both love each other more than anything, but only you would know what kinda love. Whether you love him as a friend or more is up to you. I think the story between yall is very cute though, and if yall end up together then congrats. That would be love that not many people find.
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First off, I chose your question to answer as my very first one, because I can relate to it. I am a guy, and recently, I had feelings for my best friend. She felt the same about me. She, however, chose to stay "just friends" to avoid ruining our friendship. To me, that's the worst excuse ever. Take the qualities of a best friend, and compare them to the qualities to the man you want to one day marry. Chances are, they are extremely similar. A best friend becomes a best friend because they are always there for you, and I can tell that you two are always there for each other. As far as love goes, nobody can tell you who you love, except yourself. I do think he has feelings for you, due to his reaction when you called another guy cute. I did the same thing every time my best friend talked about the guy. He is one of my closest friends, and I made the stupid mistake of convincing him to date her, because I care about her and I want her to be happy. I thought, "If I can't have her, she should have the next best thing". Now, I don't know if I can ever date her without awkwardly thinking of him. So I'm not telling you to date him now, but I think you two are perfect for each other. Don't date his best friend, or you may close that option of dating your best friend forever. You should never, in any situation, destroy an option. Keep every door open.
-MrE
P.S. I secretly am hoping you choose to date your best friend ASAP. :P
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I have the same thing going on with my bestfriend (im a girl, he's a guy)
but we're really good friends, we'd never want each other that way. have you talked to him about it? i think whatever you think inside is the right answer. maybe you do love each other but just as friend. i dont know much about you, but the fact that he sounded jealous when you were talking about his friend being cute means maybe he likes you.
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