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I have a best friend. We are both fifteen and in tenth grade. I am female, he is male. Let me tell you a little bit about us. We met in third grade and have been friends since. Every time I'm sad and I'm talking to him on the phone or something and I tell him I'm upset or he guesses, he plays his guitar for me because he knows I like that. I pack my lunch in school and every day I pack a six pack of cracker, peanut butter and I give them to him because that's his favorite kind. The other day, I was at a benefit concert and there was this cute boy there. Turns out, he's friends with my friend. So I texted my friend and told him he was cute and he texted back "yea, you told me.." and we got to talking about him and after the second time I said that I thought he was cute he said "I don't know what to say to that.." so then we stopped talking and then my friends were like "he's jealous! he so loves you!" and I was just like "nah, he's my buddy." The other day, he did the same thing, he was telling me about this girl that he liked and I didn't know what to say either but I was saying more than he did and I was helping him out and telling him that she's a good person, but she's taken, so I was telling him he kinda needed to forget about her. Last night, my mom and I went to watch Promenade at my school and we were walking out and she said "So, you're going with (my best friend) right?" and I was like "eh, we'll probably both have significant others by then" and she looked at me and said "yes. each other. I see how you smile when he texts you first. I see how you always remember to pack his crackers. I see the way his crappy attitude changes when he's talking to you. I just secretly think, deep down inside of both of you, you two adore each other, but you don't want to ruin your friendship. I also see how whenever his brother makes him think he isn't good enough, you always talk him out of thinking that and make him feel twenty times better. Third grade! Friendships usually don't last that long but look at you guys! Seven years!" The weird thing about all of this is EVERYONE I know thinks we love each other, too. Someone actually said to me "everyone can see you two love each other.. except you two." However, every time someone says something to us about it, we say no, no that's not true. We're both just good friends. No big deal. So! In conclusion, do you think we do "love" each other? and if so, why do we avoid it and push it away every time it is brought up? I know these are questions we should be able to answer ourselves but we're just at a loss. Thanks for any help you give me! ♥ (link)
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I have the same thing going on with my bestfriend (im a girl, he's a guy)
but we're really good friends, we'd never want each other that way. have you talked to him about it? i think whatever you think inside is the right answer. maybe you do love each other but just as friend. i dont know much about you, but the fact that he sounded jealous when you were talking about his friend being cute means maybe he likes you.
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me and my friend got close this year, and we are so comfortable with each other and joke around a lot but recently our play arguments turned into something serious and we started arguing seriously and we were getting arguing because we didn't take other seriously when both of us talks about something serious but its mostly me, she confronted me that i hurt her feelings a lot and i started to become defensive and i acted like i was right and keep attacking her because i didn't want the blame on me so i blamed her i know it is horrible and we were both getting mad at each other but we forgive each other easily and we're okay now but this time it seems like its really serious,and the thing is she thinks that im acting different towards her like i dont joke around as much as i do. The truth is when she confronted me i was hurt knowing that i hurt her feelings a lot and now i take her seriously because i don't to want to hurt her anymore, im afraid to lose her but i just don't know what to do anymore and i keep making the same mistakes over and over again, because she's too nice so i feel like im keeping my distance from her but im just being polite to her and i dontwant to disrespect her again and if i do joke around with her i know i will hurt her feelings again by taking it too far what should i do? when she confronted me i was really hurt and sad knowing i disappointed her. (link)
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I've done that a few times. just talk to her about it and make sure you apologize :) if you're really good friends then she'll forgive you and you can just be yourself with her.
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I broke up with my long distance ex-boyfriend 3 weeks ago. I've decided no contact with him is best for me to get over him, so we haven't spoken in 2 weeks so far.
The 1st week was a little hard, 2nd week easier, and this 3rd week's been going good. Until today.
I found out today he is now in a new relationship. It's been 3 weeks!! Well, 2 since we talked.
I was doing soo well, not crying over him/thinking about him as much..and then this shocker happens. It's like I'm right back at square one. But I left him because he treated me like crap, and I KNOW I deserve better. But we dated for 10 months, and knew each other for 1 year. And he's with another girl in 3 weeks?! He told me his ex-girl before me took him 2 years to get over!!!
I just need advice. I REALLY WANT to get over him, I know he's not the person for me, but obviously I still care for him. I know it takes time. I think not talking to him helps, the only thing is I still sometimes go on his facebook and twitter. (Facebook is how I found out about the new gf, which everyone commented on congratulating him :/) Should I block these websites and just force myself to rid my brain of everything that involves him? Please, any advice would help. It's like a slap in the face knowing that he moved on fast, so this just adds more hurt to my heart. Thanks. (link)
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I know how you feel. my ex-boyfriend Justin broke up with me (he said long-distance was too hard) and exactly a day later he had a new girlfriend. i was so sad and i felt the same way you do. but i stopped talking to him... we dated for four months and i loved him, so it was hard at first. actually it was hard until i found this other guy i kinda like. =O
So im not sure what you should do, but this is what i did.
I didnt try to hide it. i cried myself out at night a few times but after that i didnt really think about him much unless i wanted to; my friends were more than enough to occupy my mind. they are insane xD
And i talked to the other guy as kind of a relief. he's really sweet and since he's not long distance he can hug me and i'll feel so much better.
So i guess just dont grind on it, itll make you feel worse. dont think about him too much, even though you probably did love him a lot. if you need to, cry it out. that helps sometimes. but that other girl probably was a rebound. 10 months is a long time. he probably still cares about you but he wanted to get over you just as much as you wanna get over him.
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