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he never returns favors.
So, my boyfriend and I have been dating almost a month, but we've been together for about three and a half. We've never had actual sex, but we are close. We hang out a lot, and we have a lot of alone time. I do a lot of sexual things for him, and he enjoys it. But i'm often let down, cuz when I think he's going to do something sexual for me, he doesn't. He almost never does, and I feel like i'm in a one sided sexual relationship. Not only that, but it makes me feel as tho he's not really attracted to me. At first he was really into it, but recently he never seems to want to do anything for me. I know I need to talk to him, but how do I start a conversation like that? What kind of things do I say to him? I just need help. Please?
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It sounds like he is seeing someone else, or is bored. A good way to get him into you more is to make him jealous. Send flowers to yourself from some guy, and watch him wonder. If he doesn't than he probly isnt that into you. But be careful how you do it. Never ever tell him the truth.
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i know this answer will probley be booed. but if i have a question for my bf i dont want to ask him i text it to him. immature maybe but it makes it easyer. maybe he is comftorable enough with you that he feels like you enjoy doing it idk. good luck.
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well my dude is usually all over me but if i go a while pleasuring him without getting any back i'll just stop until i get some. and i wont give him oral unless he gives it to me too. just try that and maybe try just pleasuring eachother at the same time:) good luck.
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You're a month into actual dating.
This isn't something you work out. This is something you break up over. When a guy shows immediate disregard for your sexual needs and is absolutely fine with receiving without giving, that's a huge warning sign.
Even if you have this conversation, he will resent the things he has to do, and you will have to make him do most of them. He will continue to not volunteer for things and you will feel worse and worse as you have to drag him through any form of sexual reciprocation.
Men learn not to be assholes when women smack them down for being assholes. It's a truism of us guys that needs to be respected. A month into a relationship or three months into "knowing each other" the only real way you can smack him down is to break up with him and keep it that way. He's not invested enough in you to go through any major efforts, you should likewise not be invested enough in him to act any differently.
Walk away. Any other choice will just perpetuate a relationship with a guy not mature enough to be in one in the first place.
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This is why I advice people to hold off on sexual activity in a relationship.
If he is not interested in doing sexual favors for you then STOP doing it for him. It is not a must to pleasure your boyfriend for his own benefit. If your boyfriend won't put any effort into working things out and communicating with you and showing that he cares then he isn't worth your time of day. Someone who cares for someone listens, trust, communicates and most of all respects. Not to scrape on your pride here but many guys will say and do whatever it takes to keep some girls around (If you know what I mean) This is where you need to stand your ground, Either he respects you for who you are or you end the relationship. I would back off on pleasuring him for awhile, Talk to him, Study him by his actions and words and if your instinct tells you to move on then let it be so.
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