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His girlfriend is a.....
My best bud Lance has been dating this girl Rebecca (aka becca) for about 4-6 months now, and i feel like shes a total snob towards him. I mean me and her were friends a while back, so i decided this would be a good chance to rekindle that friendship with her. And it worked but, lately she has been ignoring me, giving me dirty looks, and talking behind me back. She is totaly agressive and does kick-boxing so she also punches my friends and i. I for one dont apriciate that, and she seems to snap at everyone who talks to her. Like a chihuahua. I confronted Lance about this(in case your wondering) and he said he was going to talk to her about it. And i can tell he did because she keeps her distance now.
I still want to be friends with her, even if i do like her man. she knows i do too. But that has never been a problem until now. Is there a way to keep a calmer, more peaceful friendship going?
-Olie (im 14/f Lance is 15/m and becca is 15/f)
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oh no!i once had a friend that was two faced like that.seriously i know that you want to be her friend but i wouldnt.especially when she does kickboxing.what if she gets older and decides youv pissed her off and wants to fight you?i think ofcourse you should talk to her and even if you havent done anything wrong apologise because you dont want this tension between you two.ask her why shes angry and just talk it out.
then slowly slip away and distance yourself from her.be friend and say hi to eachother but i wouldnt be a good friend with her.
I think she maybe angry because you still talk to her b.f and she feels threatened or jealous.if you wnat to keep the peace then id probably distance myself from her b.f too.you dont want to be the reason they break up fo you?i mean they may stay together forever or they may breakup either way you cant get involved.just be friends but not close firends because he may go tell his gf about what you both talked about and she may get angry or jealous..trust me you dont want to go there bub!
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Why on earth would you want to be her friend? She acts poorly towards you and other people you care about. You called her a whole bunch of nasty names here. And that's fine, you are probably right about her, but don't say that kind of shit about her and then lie to yourself about 'wanting to be her friends'.
What you want, is to be friends with the girlfriend of the guy you like. You want to keep the peace with her because you want to stay close to him, and prove you can be cool and the bigger person. Being friends with Rebecca is the best way to prove to everyone that you are superior to her.
Please, never, ever try to prove to other people that you are a good person, or that you are okay or mature or the bigger person by forcing yourself into a miserable fake friendship with someone who doesn't deserve your friendship, doesn't value it and brings nothing but negativity into your life.
Shrug off her bad behaviour with civility and respect. The way to keep the peace is not to pretend you can be friends. Stay friends with Lance, but don't force something with his girlfriend. If she is giving you some distance now, great, do the same. Maturely accept that it aint gonna happen, and start to move on with your life.
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