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I farted when my boyfriend was doing 'the deed' for me :(
Omg...I let out a pretty big one WHILE we were intimate...to be really specific...he was right by it when it happened. Obviously after that happened, he laughed and so did I...but it did kind of mess up the mood and he just sat up and started watching tv. He randomly made fun of me throughout the day, but I just got really butthurt (no pun intended). I became really self conscious..thinking that I just ruined our sex life and that he will forever be turned off and I ruined his fantasy for me. I used to be so confident in the bedroom and this just TOTALLY messed it up for me. It feels like I'm making it a bigger deal than it is...but that's just the way I feel. Obviously, he got turned off because he didnt continue and kept making fun of me. Gawd...any feedback?
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I know more than you. I know you're a child, and so is your boyfriend. My advice was spot on, it's not my fault that he broke up with you and wouldn't let it go. I imagine you being worked up over it might have had a contributory effect, he could very easily have just branded you as uptight and walked away not wanting to deal with your insecurities.
He's immature. You can't really fix that, but it's not my fault either. Maybe chill out in the future and stop railing on people who offer short advice on getting over something that is, I repeat
NOT A BIG DEAL.
If a douchebag left you for farting during sex, that too is not a big deal. You're better off with him gone, and my advice is still the best way to handle it.
Moreover, getting angry because your short story with little to no actual question wasn't given a perfect page long answer which solved all your problems is really, really immature. You're acting like a 13 year old, your question just asked for feedback and I agreed with your original assertion that you might be making too big a deal out of it.
What else was I supposed to do? Hmm? What answer would you have WANTED to get? Or are you just angry and bitter and lashing out at someone you don't know over the internet?
Chill out. Your state of mind isn't doing you any good and it's not like it's hurting him. The more you freak out, the harder it's going to be to leave this stupid event behind you. In a month or two you won't care. Or you'll be a typical teenager and turn this insignificant life event into the focal point of your overly emotional and overblown drama tendencies, and agonize over it for a while.
Which sounds smarter to you?
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lol, I am so sorry..
Um,
I can promise you, You are not the only one this has ever happened too. (It's happened to me a few times too) The mood might have been ruined in the heat of the moment but I can promise you it is not something that is going to be forever. It is just one of those comedy things that happened sometimes. If it bothers you that your boyfriend is cracking on you, Let him know. Tell him you are really embarrassed by what happened and you feel hurt that he keeps making jokes about it. I promise you, This will all eventually blow over. ;)
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If it ruined his opinion of you then he wouldn't have joked about it throughout the day. If he was honestly bothered, he probably would have came up with an excuse to leave and never mention it again.
The fact he is joking about it makes me think that although it was probably awkward for both of you, it's probably bothering you more than him. He is trying to laugh it off. Express your embarrassment, and then forget about it. This kind of thing happens, probably more than you think. If you guys are close and comfortable with each other, then this shouldn't be bothering you too much.
He is a guy. Trust me; unless it's on your part, your sex life is going to be just fine. I am sure he will continue wanting to have sex. He's a man.
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