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Dating and Different Religion
I like your views on People are dating and have different REligion View. well I grow up in a christain family and we belive in god and we do hoildays and go to church.
well I been dating this guy for 9 month. and he is sweet and funny and good to me. and we get along pretty good. but how ever his family Daugher Married a family who are kunck off of christ of christ and that they don't like Clebartie Hoildays and think crosses and Pegans. and well my bf can be strong minded. and it not that he don't like crosses andthink there bad it just he belive don't need them to remeber and stuff all you need is job. well i do care and love him but not sure if i married and have kids with him becouse it be alot harder. we seem to be good together but it get to religion it seem like a issue too his family. i mean thye like me. theiy belive i am gift from god. becouse well I am Hard of hearing n born with celf palated and small and such. i don't know. I realy need some tips and advice and like soem others thoughts think
amanda
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there are always problems when you marry outside your faith but the problems usually arise after children. ah and when you marry you usually go with what ever religion your husband is and either way you will have problems with which others one family that you dont share religious views with.
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Hey there.
First off, my opinion will probably be a bit off the beaten path, but the beauty of such a site is in the variety of positions I think.
I will be honest with you, I had a hard time understanding the last part of what you wrote, but I think I get the gist anyway.
Here's the deal with religion. By default almost all religions are exclusionary- in the sense that they profess absolute truth. Since you cannot have 2 conflicting absolute truths, it follows that one can at most tolerate your partner's beliefs- but that one invariably perceives it as a "false" position.
So the way I see it, marriages/relationships between two people that firmly believe in different faiths are rather difficult. For one thing each will be convinced that, upon death, the other will burn in whatever hell their religion believes in.
Furthermore, there is the issue of children. Surely neither will (or should) allow their child to follow the other spouse's faith if they truly believe in their eternal punishment.
So I see them as inherently incompatible.
Of course, some people do make them work. Usually they do this by either ignoring parts of their own faith (watering it down so to speak and ignoring all the "nasty" parts from their holy books), converting to the other spouse's faith, or questioning the concept of faith altogether (after all, not one single relgion offers a shred of evidence to support itself).
How you choose to go about it is up to you. I am an atheist personally, so you can guess my recommendation.
However, there will have to be some hard compromises made, and these compromises are often not in line with what many religions teach.
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Hello Amanda
I myself am also hard of hearing, I have also dealt with different religion relationships.
From my experience, I am non-religious and I was dating someone who was Jewish for five years. Depending on how heavily into religion your boyfriend is it might be or become one hell of a roller coaster. Remember, This is about you and your boyfriend. It is not about You, your boyfriend and his family. (Well it is, but not when it comes to the relationship if you know what I mean) When I was dating this Jewish guy he was very into his religion and over time he wanted me to convert into Judaism while I technically never really had any interest. If his family like you then I can a sure you that is a plus, Just keep being friendly and putting on a good impression I'm not saying this is the case but maybe his family will make an exception to your religious ways. The one thing that may become a problem for you in the future is the fact that they don't celebrate holidays. Ask yourself, Are you okay with that? Are you okay with the fact that your boyfriend may never join you in church? Never the less, I'm not sure of your age but what if your boyfriend were ever to say to you he doesn't want to marry in a church? Are you okay with that too? These are all things that could very well become a problem later down the line. If you can handle the fact that you two are completely different when it comes to that then you might be able to inch your way around it but I can almost promise you it will still be a struggle for the both of you to some degree.
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