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is this how it's supposed to be?
i am a 29 year old woman,divorced and with 2 children.i've lived with my mom and stepdad for about 3 years now.i was excited last year because i was getting ready to move out and get my own place.well a few days later they both just up and quit their jobs.well need to say their not looking and i'm paying everything.i'm bout broke and my truck just tore up and its gonna be bout 1000.00 to fix it.that will completley break me and i;m at my wits end here. any advice
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That just seems ridiculous to me that your mom and stepdad would allow you to pay for everything and that you do it when you have two kids to take care of. I know that you care about your parents but that is not your job your kids come first 100 percent and they need you I think that you should talk to your parents and ask them to contribute while you work on saving your money to move out...do whatever you have to do its hard but be strong ;)
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You're eating through savings you need for your children, and you're giving them a bad example of priorities. It's not your job to take care of your mom and stepfather. If they refuse to work to help pay the bills, move out and let them pick up the pieces. You're mom now, and your kids are priority one. Get them out of this toxic situation asap.
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Find a way to move out.
It's not all right for your parents to have stopped contributing (baring some sort of medical emergency or issues that made them unable too) and for you to find yourself supporting them as well as your children when you aren't able too.
Sometimes, to achieve real change, we have to be willing to make ourselves very uncomfortable. It might be time to start exploring some extreme options, a family-friendly shelter for instance, so that you will be able to retrench and work towards a future where you children get what they need.
Your parents might have supported you before, and that was very kind of them, if they were able and willing too. It doesn't mean that you are able or willing to support them. The children must be the priority. If you can't change your parents actions, you must find a way to change your own and carve out a path to finical independence.
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