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Lifeless anorexic sick friend.


Question Posted Friday April 2 2010, 4:44 pm

17/f my best friend is anorexic, she has been since last summer it's really bad. She looks like a Skelton and it's really gross. She probably weighs 80 pounds. She is lifeless and boring and always in bad moods. Before this crazy diet she did she was the funnest craziest girl I ever met. I'm considering telling my guidance counselor because I'm really afraid she is going to die. What do you think I should do? I know I can't control her, but I'm not going to watch her die either. People have given me multiple anorexic warning sheets to give her. It's just really bad and I don't know what to do

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kathleen20 answered Tuesday April 6 2010, 4:06 pm:
Stick with her. If you really are saying you think she's going to die, the best thing to do right now is stick with her. The thing she will want most is to have her best friend by her through all of it. No matter what happens, give her confidence. If she isn't this bad, then hang out with her alot. Don't even treat her like she's different.

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ami101 answered Saturday April 3 2010, 3:40 pm:
Hi

My best friend was severely anorexia.

The first step was for myself and another of her friends to go to the school counsellor .
While they have very limited knowledge with eating disorders they can contact her parents and eating disorder organisations to help her.

It will be tough. She will lie to you. My friend lied to me constantly. You need to be her support. She most likely does not want to get better, that is the sad truth of the disease. She does not realise she has a problem.

It might take months/years for her to recover. My friend had to leave school because of health risks and so she was not allowed to attend, thankfully she got into a eating disorder clinic where she lived and they helped her.

The important thing is that no matter what she says, no matter how mad, upset, lost you feel you need to remind her that you are always there for her. She will need someone to talk to and support her.


Research online eating disorder places close to you. And look online for information so that you understand about the disease.

She won’t eat, she’ll say she has but trust me she won’t, or she will but then exercise excessively.

When you feel comfortable you should talk to her family. Someone should travel with her before and after school.(to make sure she does not walk or leave extra early for school to get excessive exercise done)

Mention that she will most likely exercise at night when they are asleep.

It will be tough but always remember the friend you love before the disease. She’s still there she just has a mental illness which she needs to confront and beat before she can fully return.

Don’t hate her because of the lies she may tell, the stories she may make up. It will be obvious but to her she will be fooling you.

Stay strong.

All the best

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lovelyrics answered Saturday April 3 2010, 12:45 am:
Tell someone with authority who can physically help her! You're helping her, just be caring and finding someone to help her cope with her anorexia. Give her those anorexic warning sheets. Try bringing up the topic of conversation with her to see what's going on in her mind. If she's in denial, tell someone! Tell her parents, tell your counselor, tell anyone who can do something. The worst thing you could do is sit while she starves herself to death. Good luck and I hope she gets better.

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