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can you just stop talking to a guy
Lets say a girl loses their virginity to a guy, is it wrong for her to stop talking to him for a while? How long is too long? How about like 3 weeks? And what impression does the girl give off by not talking to him? And how does or could the guy feel?
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Everyone has a right to behave in whatever way they see fit.
Not talking to someone for three weeks would more than likely turn you into a selfish bitch, however. Assuming this wasn't a casual one nighter, you should assume that you're both kind of mentally reeling. You just slept together for the first time, might be dating, etc.
Look at it this way. If you were feeling insecure about intimacy and really wanted to talk to a guy, and he walked away for three weeks and ignored you to take his personal space, would you be happy sitting there waiting for him?
Probably not. Part of being in relationships is learning to balance needs and take each other's needs into account.
Reactions? If the guy likes you, he's going to feel used, and he's going to feel like you don't give a shit. If he doesn't know you, he might or might not care. You haven't given us enough context to really tell, who is this guy? What is he to you? Boyfriend? Close friend you were comfy enough to sleep with? Are you attracted to each other? Do you know each other's names? Stuff like that.
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I think a girl has a right not to talk to the guy if she doesn't want to. I can't imagine why she wouldn't want to though, unless it was perhaps something she regretted doing. If that were the case, it would really need to be discussed & not put off.
I think if the girl likes the guy, she doesn't just ignore him after sharing such an intimate thing. If she does, she can't expect to be welcomed back like nothing has happened. Communication is the key to any good relationship. If the girl wants to continue the relationship, she better start talking.
By not talking to him she gives the impression that she either did not like it, no longer wants anything to do with the guy, or is perhaps ashamed she did it.
I am by no means advocating teen sex, but once done it needs to be talked about. If she doesn't want to do it again, she has every right to say so, but she needs to talk to the guy about that.
I'm sure the guy would feel like he did something wrong. That she hated it and or now hates him. Guys do share some of the same feelings girls do when it comes to feeling rejected. If the girl waits 3 weeks to talk to the guy, she will probably find herself dumped. A guy a girl is interested in shouldn't be left in limbo.
If a couple feels they are grown up enough to have sex, they should know it comes with a LOT
of responsibility and communication. If a girl cannot talk to a guy she has just had sex with,
the relationship is doomed in my opinion.
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i think it is okay to take some time to think about what you have done. Although, i do think that if he tries to contact you, certainly talk to him and let him know that you are dealing with this 'change?' it is a big step towards womanhood and it is something that one must process. It's ok to take a time out but make sure he knows that you don't hate him. Good Luck!!!
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