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My mom is always critizing and lecturing me.
17/f I have been the same person since I was ten. I've liked the same music, same style, same people. But my mom hates the guys I date. She says they are cute but pobably not going anywhere in life and I should like really smart boys who are going to be rich and so I never have to work. She says this all the time and I am sick of this lecture. I've gone on dates with the type of guy she wants me to date and I have nothing in common with them. I just don't know what to say to her. I can't help who I like, money has never been too important to me, and she says the only reason I don't care about money is because i've never had to worry about it. Which is true, my family is pretty wealthy and I didn't even know the economy was bad until my friends parents lost their jobs. I understand why my mom says the things she says, she just wants what's best for me. But I can't change who I am or who I love, can I? Don't think I like bad boys or whatever, that's not my type. I like artsy sensitive boys. I have the most in common with
them. how do I handle this situation?
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Explain this to your mother. Also, do you have a career in mind? you can throw the "but i want to work, and make my own money. Im not going to marry all the guys i date!" line out there? Thats all i got to be fair...good luck :)
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"I'm seventeen Mom! I'm not looking for a life partner and the father of my children! I'm DATING."
Don't argue with above love, or 'in-common', or money... It doesn’t sound like you are in a serious relationship with anyone right now, so you don’t have to justify a choice of one particular guy. Shut her down by saying "You have a point Mom and I hear you. In the future, those migth be things I have to think about when I'm selecting a guy. But it's not important NOW. I’m just enjoying the company of people I want to date. I’m not going to judge the guys I like based on their potential pension plan.”
You seem to know she does have a point, although it’s not so serious one as she believes it is, and letting her know you get it will probably help her feel like she can back down a bit... Its only natural for your mom to want for you the same kind of lifestyle she has. It's also natural for you at this age, to start gently reminding her that you are still figuring out what you want...
If you think it will help her put this in perspective you can even ask her: “Do you really want me to be thinking about marriage and kids at my age? I’ve got other things to do first!”
Most parents don’t want their 17 year old to be trolling for baby daddy material.
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