Question Posted Saturday February 27 2010, 5:57 pm
okay so im really stressed out at the moment. i live with my mum and my two little siblings are living with their dads and are really happy. mum and i live out of town so the only thing i can do at home is go on the laptop and do jobs. ive had a boyfriend for well over a year. so, the only people in my life at the moment are my mum and boyfriend. i also have my cat. my mum has a full time job so i dont get to see her very much. and she went to china a few days ago. i get so lonely. i feel like i have no one at all and im stressed out of my mind. i dont have many friends at the moment, they just dont seem to like me very much anymore. anyway, i started cutting myself on my hip, so people dont see of course. i feel like it help me because its distracting me from thinking about everything. because i have so much time by myself im always thinking and getting stresses out heaps. i told my boyfriend the other night and he got really mad at me. i saw him yesteray so ive got other things to think about other than how fucked my life is at the moment so im not wanting to cut myself. i just need to be distraced from thinking so much. it drives me mad. i would talk to the school counciler but i use to work for her at a berry farm so i wouldnt feel comfortable talking to her. so i just want something to distract me, keep me occupied so i dont cut myself again. i'll be moving into town next month so that will help. i hate being by myself. im not scared i just get lonely. please help me.
adviceman49 answered Sunday February 28 2010, 9:34 am: I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Panic attacks, cutting and low self esteem are all symptoms of depression for which you should seek a doctor’s help. Once under a doctor’s care it is possible you will see things in an entirely new prospective.
How do I know this? I too suffer from depression and fight every day from regressing back into the depressive ways of my past. With the aid of medication and the aid of a good therapist I have been able to keep my depression under control. I now see life in an entirely different light. I interpret thing entirely different than I have in the past. I find it amazing how depression affects ones impressions of just about everything.
What I would like you to do is calmly sit down with your mum or your dad and ask one of them to take you to the family doctor. Take the letter you have written us with you to the doctor and let him/her read it. I am positive that after reading your letter the doctor will prescribe some medication to help you feel better while arrangements are made for you to see the appropriate specialist.
I am not sure if you live in the U.S. if you do these Hot line numbers are available for you to call. One I recommend is at Boys & Girls Town. The Number there is: 1-800-448-3000. The call takers there are specifically trained to help you and to help you locate professionals in your area to deal with your depression. If you do not live in the U.S. there are similar organizations that can be found on-line in most countries.
You can also go to any hospital emergency room, again bring the letter with you that you have written us. Do not worry about the cost; there are programs to cover the cost. Once the doctor’s read what you have written they will know what they need to do for you to help you feel better.
Lastly if at any time you feel like cutting yourself, don’t. Instead pick up the phone and call 911 or your country’s emergency number. Tell the call taker what you are thinking of doing to yourself, they will send the appropriate emergency service to help you. Do not be afraid, they are there to help you.
There is help out there for you; you do not have to hurt yourself to feel something. Please call the hotline for advice. See your doctor or go to the emergency room for help. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
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