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Going away party NIGHTMARE
So on Friday night I sent out invitations for my going away party this night at Applebees. On facebook, cause its easier to contact people that way. And now its Sunday, and out of the 28 people I invited, 4 have accepted, 9 have said "maybe", 2 have declined (I didn't like them too much anyways), and the remaining 13 people haven't replied yet! So basically.. 4 people are certain. I almost feel like crying.
My family is moving on Thursday half-way across the country, so I can't have it next week. And I've lived here since I was 6 years old so its not like people didn't know me or anything. I invited all the people that I was friends with.. even people I havent talked to in a while but still want to remember of living in this area. People that like the last time I talked to them I was on good terms with.. I think. And I know people go on Facebook.. especially on the weekend.. it was pretty last minute because I wasn't sure I would be able to have a going away party or not so I had to be sure.
What do I do???????? And tonight my mom will be getting her hair done so I don't know how I'll get a ride there.. I still have to figure that out. I just don't want to go and like nobody comes, or only a few come and they think I'm a loser and then maybe we won't have a good time.. and that's how they'll remember me and everything. :( This is why I rarely ever have parties.. its too stressful and I don't want to make myself embarassed or anything. Thats why its at applebees too. its cheaper, but also because theres not as much expectation.
Like at my house, unlike a lot of other people's ive been to, theres like nothing to do! like watch tv or go on the computer is pretty much it.. i mean some people are good at still entertaining guests regardless. but i dont know whether i just dont have close friends like that to just enjoy being together and talking or i have too high expectations on what to do and stuff.. like I'd spend a lot of time worrying whether they are bored and what not.. Ughhhh. Hopefully it wont be like that at all at my new place, new town, new people, new everything.
So yeah, tonight, any advice? And I dont know whether I should call the restaurant ahead, because what if like a lot more people accept (im not sure of that right now) and then it will take a long time to get us a table since they'd have to put tables together for a lot of people to sit? I dont want to call in early if I overestimate.. cause I really don't know where it will stand by then.
I really dont wanna embarass myself! Like what if the worst happens.. nobody comes or only like 1-2 people... I'm really anxious and keep checking facebook to see if anyone else has responded. Ughhhhh. :( I'm 16 btw.
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Ok, I don't usually answer things of a social nature, but this is a really good example of something that can help you through the rest of your life, as it has me in mine:
What is easy for you isn't always the best thing to do... in fact whatever is easy is almost always the wrong thing to do in my experience.
Facebook. MySpace, etc... are really bad ways to contact people. The messaging system is unreliable to begin with, and most people are being spammed to death so they don't even check it unless they are EXPECTING something urgent.
Oldschool is the best school when it comes to getting parties underway. Here is how to do damage control on this:
Number one: You should have sent out paper invitations. People will attend almost anything if they have one of these in their hand. Too late for that now, but if you ever do this again... don't forget: "Paper is serious, and Facebook is hilarious." ;-)
Oh, right damage control:
Get on the phone. Call the entire list and let them know that you are really COUNTING on them being there.
Get ahold of the 4 who confirmed they would be there, and have them promote the party. If you ask them nicely, they will get on the phone and call around too, which will get the buzz going a bit more.
As far as not going: Go. If only 2 people show up, you guys will have this experience to remember for life. I wish people could get away from "myspace thinking" for a minute and understand that friends really aren't about quantity... just quality.
A real friend would jump in front of a bullet for you. How many of those do you have? If you are really, really, really lucky you will have two. In your whole life. :-)
The one thing I can promise you is that if you take no action and just sit there refreshing facebook, you will feel really stupid about this when you look back on it and realize that it was your fault for not putting forth the effort to make the party a success. Dont' let that be you!
Now, how about you stop reading this and get on the phone? It is already late, and it will be too late for some people to come, and others will need a reminder.
Let me know (in feedback) how the get-together goes.
Have a good time no matter who shows up... and definitely go.
P.S. Next time... just promise me you won't be planning parties through facebook, ok? ;-)
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