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Well i told her finnaly... i didnt have the balls to do it in person which im really kicking my self over so dont give me no stick for it.
she didnt take it well :(
i think she got attached too quickly, she came over today for the last time to collect her dvd's that she left over here. not that i didnt feel terrible before but now i feel even worse because it was a quick smile not even a hi. then a see ya and she turned and left. I wanted to talk to her but once again i was too much of a damn coward to even ask that... she seems really upset over this and i feel terrible. i cant go back on what i said because i just dont feel it for her but i still want to be good freinds because shes a great person to be around. I hate that iv made her unhappy and theres not alot i can do about it.
what do i do? i cant just forget it can i? People say i care too much for others, is this one of those things i shouldnt be involved in any more?
if you havent seen my first question plz give it a quick look over :) thanks for all your help so far guys you'v not done me wrong ever
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hey. it's normal to feel hurt and guilty. almost all the guys I know have told me that they always feel guilty for dumping a girl. Unless you're an ass and doesn't care about her feelings. but from what i have read, you're not an ass. You really care about her feelings and that's why you're feeling guilty about this. Here's what you need to do. (trust me on this because I've done this too) You need to tell her everything that's on your mind and heart. even if she wont listen, just spill everything out. If you want to be friends with her still, tell her that. But dont expect her to say "ok" right away. because if she really did like you, its not that easy for a girl to just accept being friends.
secondly, you have to forget about it. Don't dwell on it too much. Here's what i think. I think you're focused too much on making HER happy. You need to do what makes YOU happy. ok?
Try to convince her to be friends, but if she doesn't listen and doesn't want to, then don't force her. I believe in fate. if you didnt have strong feelings for her in the beginning, then it wasn't meant to be. You know when you really like someone. You get that butterfly feeling and happy,calm,nervous feeling when you're around them. but if you were around her and didnt feel any of that... then it wasn't meant to be.
dont focus on fixing this too much because soon it will take over your mind and it will just cause drama and stress. do a bunch of new stuff to take your mind of girls for a while. take up on a sport, have a guys night out, go party, join clubs. just do whatever. forget about girls and just have fun. live life like its your last day. thats my motto :)
Good luck :)
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Personalty, I think you should just forget about it. Sometimes people care too much. You shouldn't care about others who aren't willing to care for you in return. If she wants out of your life, let her be and move on. You're only young once and have all the time in the world for relationships and girls, trust me! Go out and have fun with the guys. Live life first, then settle down.
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