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when starting a relationship...
i've never been in a relationship,but i am now for my first time.We haven't been together very long but my expectations were higher than I thought.My boyfriend isn't like most boyfriends I see or hear about. He doesn't call me to talk on the phone,we don't hangout everyday,he texts me a little bit but not that much and i usually have to make the plans when we hangout (since I drive).He is a very busy guy,but still he could atleast text me to say goodnight.whenever we text at night,it usually just results in him not answering because he fell asleep ,instead of him saying goodnight.He doesn't really say cute stuff often but before we were going out,he would offer to buy me lunch and be really nice and since we started going out and doing sexual things (not sex!) he's changed.Don't get me wrong,he IS a nice guy.He hasn't done anything mean to me ,i just kinda feel a little neglected at times ...but is this normal since it's a new building relationship?
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My first "real" relationship was like that. Exactly the same way. Wouldn't be very cute with me but was still really nice to me. We'd hang out but not too often. We didn't talk everyday. We lasted 3 months through that then realized it wasn't worth it. We both noticed that, we were both really shy about it. So it might be the same way? If you want to save this one talk to him, communication is the only way you know what he's thinking and its what you want. Bring it up, if not, its definitely not worth it.
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It is not normal at all. He should go out of his way to make you feel wanted and make you feel loved. Although you do not have to have constant contact and it is good to have seperate lives, you need to feel and he needs to make you a big part of his. He may be a good person and have not done anything significantly wrong to you but he does not care enough to show you the attention you deserve. Don't settle for that. There are many guys that would adore you and love to show you they truly care. Communicate your needs to him and if he reacts poorly or gives excuses then he is not the type of person you should keep around.
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No it is not. A lot of guys don't know how to be that perfect gental man in a relationship although, your boyfriend actted like that in the beginning and changed his mind. When I was dating around when I was younger I would get bored with the relationship I was in and just break up or ignore him until they broke up with me. Why i have no idea. But he doesnt sound like the right guy for you just from what you wrote. and if you are upset or worried think of it this way. An experience thats what it was and there are plenty of guys out there who arean amazing gentalmen maybe not the perfect.
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