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Jealous of Megan Fox???
OK, so my boyfriend is really obsessed with Megan Fox. Well who wouldn't be? I like her too, but he is absolutely CRAZED with her. He talks about her 24/7. It gets kind of annoying, as he never wants to talk about anything else when he gets on the subject. It makes me feel like he wants me to be more like her, and I'd have to starve myself to have an amazing body like that. Any suggestions? Or should I just get over it? Thanks.
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He's an idiot and relatively shallow.
Its not normal to parade around with an obsession about a celebrity past the age of 12 or 13. If your boyfriend is 12 or 13, you're going to have to deal with it because there is nothing you can do to make him grow up faster.
If your boyfriend is older, you're going to have to leave him, because there's still likely nothing you can do to make him grow up faster.
Stop tolerating it. Boys in relationships don't grow up until they find a woman who they want enough that they don't leave when she calls them on their shit. Call him on his shit, if things don't work out there's a maturity gap thats insurmountable at this point.
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quit taking his bull crap .
talk about someone hot too (:
it'll give him a taste of his own medicine.
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You just have to mention it to him. Say something along the lines of, it really bugs me and makes me feel like I'm not good enough when all you talk about is Megan Fox.
In the meantime, keep in mind that it's just a dumb celebrity crush, and then he doesn't necessarily expect you to look like that. (You couldn't without plastic surgery anyway, she's had implants, a nose job, and collagen in her lips, among other things.) If you can't stop feeling insecure, one thing that might help, as dumb as it sounds, is thinking about reasons why you're better than here. For instance, I can guarantee that you're smarter than her- she doesn't read because she has a "phobia of paper".
It really is just one of those things that will get better in time though. (Provided your boyfriend tries to stop)
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While I don't think you should just up and dump the poor guy because his topics are now considered boring to you, I do think you need to open the lines of communication here and tell him how this is making you feel!
Sit down and have a mature conversation with the guy about your relationship. Tell him that you love spending time with him and you want to get to know him. Let him know that it seems like all he ever likes to talk about with you is Megan Fox and that it has become irritating. Explain to him that it now feels almost like belittling you for not actually BEING her and that it is damaging your self-esteem. Let him know that you don't want to end the relationship but IMPROVE it.
Chances are he's fairly young and doesn't quite understand how girls work. He probably isn't purposelly doing this to you every chance he gets--it's just something on his mind often. Help him out by starting conversations about other things that you'd like to know about him. When he's done a good job about not mentioning his obsession with the celebrity then make sure to thank him for it, letting him know you appreciate it (maybe he buy him a little something as a 'thank you for caring about me and my feelings too' thing).
If you want to be a mature person then you don't just up and dump someone without giving them a chance to improve. Talk to him about it all, be caring and comfortable. Let him know you understand but you need him to do some understanding about you now.
If he doesn't improve (give him a good month to try it out, especially with you trying to put some new topics in the conversation to help him along) then explain that the relationship is dying for you and that you do not know what else to do to salvage this. Remind him that you talked to him about the main problem and that you feel that you two are just not as compatible as you once thought.
It's possible he just doesn't know how to act with a girlfriend. Explain the problem and give him a chance before booting him.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me directly :)
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Um, if my boyfriend only ever talked about one thing, any one thing, even if was NASCAR, I would dump him because it's boring as hell.
It's normal to have topics you really like, or little obsessions, it's also normal to realize that your girlfriend is probably bored to tears, or even offended, by your obsession with a mutant movie star.
Tell him that you get it already, he's a fan, but that you need to be able to talk about other things as well, and that you need to know that he likes and is interested in you too.
If he can't manage that, he shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone.
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