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Long distance relationship
I am in a long distance relationship, with this guy I really love, he is coming to see me soon, he wants to have sex, he is really big and I am a virgin :/ is it going to hurt alot? If so how do I prevent this?
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The one KEY to being with a guy whose 'big' is to just relax when it's happening. Just let your body be loose and lay there. Don't be nervous because it's not something to be nervous about if you really care about him. Also tell him to use lube, it makes it easier for him to get 'in there' because your first time you may be way too nervous to be stimulated. I'm going to tell you honestly, the first couple seconds it's going to hurt a little and feel weird, but after a while it shouldn't be so bad, just remember to stay relaxed and not tense up. When you tense up, it makes it even harder for him to get inside, if at all. Also, put a towel underneath you in case he pops your hymen (or G-spot).
If this long-distance relationship started over the internet, PLEASE be careful and make sure you've at least seen him on web cam and know his actual age. I'm hoping you've already met him in person before he comes to visit you. As much as I don't want to seem like a mom and tell you things that you think you already know and don't want to hear, there are A LOT of weird people out there and you never really know. Just be sure.
If you have already met him, I'm sorry for jumping to conclusions. Just be safe. <3 Good luck!
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You say that HE wants to have sex. Do you?
Only you can make the right decision for yourself, so be sure to stick to your guns and don't let him pressure you to do anything you don't want to.
As for the pain, tons of water-based lubricant and tons of foreplay will do the trick. When you become aroused, you sort of loosen up a bit.
It may not work out the first time, especially if he's too big for you. If you're in too much pain, stop and wait for another time.
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Don't have sex until you are absolutely sure you are ready to. If he loves you as much as you do him, he will wait.
It is common for sex to hurt the first time, that is normal. You should both take things slowly to get used to the feeling. It might be useful to use a lubricant (waterbased, anything else can tear the condom). Also, don't expect penetration to be easy the first time. It can take a while to get it right.
Have fun and stay safe.
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