I was raped and I "had an orgasm!" Now I want to die! :-(
Question Posted Friday January 29 2010, 9:39 pm
I can't imagine feeling worse about myself than I do right now. I was raped and I can't even tell anyone! :'( He got me alone at a party and I told him no but he made me have sex with him anyway. So i cried and tried not to think about it but in the middle of the rape... I had an orgasm!
Please believe me I didn't want to! It just happened! My boyfriends in the past didn't give me orgams and and I just don't know what to do! I really want to die i just feel so dirty and aweful!!! how do I tell my mother I was raped at a party she told me something bad would happen at if I went to it....... when i obvioulsy must have wanted it because I had one!
please someone tell me what to do I really want to die and i can't stop criyng since it happened last night
Melody answered Saturday January 30 2010, 1:23 pm: The fact you had an orgasm is completely irrelevant. In fact, it happens to a lot of women that are raped. It's your body's natural response to the sex (consentual or not). You have to tell your mom as soon as possible. I am sure she will be too upset about the situation to pull the "I told you so" routine. The longer you wait, the worse this all will be.
If you do take this to trial, the chances of him being found guilty are slim to none given the circumstances. This is considered "date rape" and it is very hard to prosecute. Given the fact it has already been more than 24 hours and you have more than likely already taken a shower, most all of the evidence is probably gone. The defense can give hundreds of different scenarios as to what went down at the party, and they will smear your name throughout the entire trial. If the trial is brought in front of a jury, the chance he will get off due to reasonable doubt is very high. If even one juror believes whatever story the defense spins, he will not be found guilty.
I know all of that sounds harsh, and will probably make you not want to go to trial, but I just want to give you the facts. I think you should take it to trial though. You probably think I am crazy for saying this, and it will be one of the hardest and most embarrassing things you will ever have to go through, but in the end I don't think you will regret it. Even if he does get off, you have named your rapist for what he is, and perhaps you have kept another young girl from going to a party with him.
sia answered Saturday January 30 2010, 5:39 am: you have to go get yourself checked out.you need to tell your mother so you can go to the police and put this criminal in jail.he could be doing it to other girls!it doesnt matter you got an orgasm or not.dont worry about that because thats not the big picture.the big picture is that you got raped and need to get checked for STD's...the longer you leave it the worse itll be for you.
tell your mother and tell her that i think the rape was enough tourture for you so that she doesnt get angry.
please let me know how it goes.and im here if you wanna talk
lolalufonda222 answered Friday January 29 2010, 11:15 pm: first of all im really sorry about that =(
but on the bright side, at least you didnt get raped on your first time. im sure whatever happened while you were getting raped was completely involutary. people cant help that kind of stuff and it in no way means you wanted to be raped. as for telling yojur mom im sure if she is a good mom she will help you and now be mad, but if you feel that she cant do that maybe its best that you dont tell her if nothing good can come of it. good luck, hope i helped. please please let me know how it goes. [ lolalufonda222's advice column | Ask lolalufonda222 A Question ]
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