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my best friend is going to have a baby and she is 13, she didn't mean to get pregnant but she did. she told me that she doesn't want to be a mother, and she isn't ready for this baby. Her boyfriend is 15 and he doesn't know what to do, she is living with him and his parents.and she doesn't believe in abortion. I want to know what are the chances of her having a miscarriage, will her age affect the her or/and the baby's health? or if anyone has had a teen pregency or knows someone who had...any information or advice will help thanks!
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Well, I'm 13 so this is interesting to me.
She is young, not ready for pregnancy, or parenthood.
The chances for miscarriage are the same for most pregnancies, it depends what kind of activities she does as well.
The only reason her age might affect the baby's health is lack of knowlege to take care of it. It will make her weaker, but I don't know if age can really make her unhealthy.
I think they should go to the closest Planned Pregnancy clinic, and they could help them sort out this baby mess, okay?
She should also consider adoption if she doesn't want to be a mother.
I wish her as easy of a pregnancy as she can have, it will be hard being her age.
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You mean this 13 year old girls parents are allowing her to live with a 15 year old boy & HIS parents? Poor girl.
Of course she isn't ready to be a mother. 13 year old girls are not women. Its kind of late to be thinking of that now though.
If she doesn't believe in abortion, she shouldn't be encouraged in that direction. She has enough to deal with without adding mental anguish.
All teen pregnancy's are "high risk" pregnancy's.
A 13 year olds body is not ready to deal with a pregnancy. The mothers health and life is at high risk for trouble. Proper medical supervision is extremely important.
Miscarriage shouldn't be a worry & I hope this isn't a "how to" question. That would put the mothers life in danger. I'm sorry if that isn't what you were asking. I had to add it because I have been here a long time & it has been asked
many times before.
I have had a teen pregnancy. Many years ago, and I was 17. I'm not judging just telling you like it is.
Your friend needs to be home with her parents. She is not an adult yet regardless of her condition. The boyfriend can be held responsible without her living with his family. Regardless of how she feels about the boyfriend, she is a child
herself and needs her parents. Her pregnancy is going to be stressful enough, she needs to be home. Encourage her to go there unless it is an abusive home.
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hopefuuly a miscarriage does not happen, also convince her not to get an abortion, why should the baby have to die over her mistake, this is a living being and is she and her boyfriend do not want to take care of the baby, they could have the child and give the child to a couple who can not have children, or to a lonely eldelry person who is loving. the baby could have some health issues but she should still have the baby, getting an abortion is doubting the child.
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Echoing the below. Adoption.
There are quite literally millions of couples in the world who are infertile for some reason, and cannot have kids. These people have the money to raise a child and the love to give, and they are in a place in their adult lives where they can set the right example for a child.
Adoption is a way for your friend to give her child to someone who can take care of it when she cant. Its a way to give an amazing gift to people who cannot have a child themselves.
In a situation like this where abortion isn't possible, adoption obviously is. It is possible for her to go in, have a C section, wake up, and leave the hospital. The adoptive parents take over from there and take the kid home, which is the easiest way for someone like her to do it. She won't ever have to see the kid and can just let him/her go to a loving family.
Good for the kid, good for your friend, and best of all most of the time adoptive parents have the means and willingness to help with or take care of medical bills and such.
I know someone who went this route, it really is the best way for someone who knows they aren't ready to parent. 9 months and a scar later, and your life can go somewhat back to normal with the peace of mind that you know you did the right thing.
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What about adoption there are a ton of families out there that are looking for a baby who can not have one. Yes it is terrible and you will think about the baby but an adoption agency will find a great family for her baby. Abortion i dont believe in either. Keeping the child is life changing. She could even if someone in her family or his would like to adopt the child and raise it. there are tons of other options. miscarriages just happen i was 15 when i got pregnant with my first child. and its tough trust me. hes three now and a little handful.
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