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Friend drifting apart
Hello, lately I've been having some friend problems. I'm a guy and I met this girl in University on September of 2009, we're both first years, and she is one of my closest friends so far. The other day we were on the phone and the topic "did you ever like me?" came up, I was honest with her because I've just been that comfortable with her to tell her that I did. She said that she did not see me that way and she would never want to lead me on, and i accept that. The rest of the conversation went well and there was no awkwardness whatsoever, but a few days later I saw her again for the first time after the conversation on the phone, everything seemed so different, it seemed like she was keeping a little more distance than usual even though we tried to make it clear with each other on the phone that there would be no awkwardness and this wouldn't affect the friendship. Now it seems like we're talking a lot less, I haven't had a real conversation with her for the past week (I usually have 1-2 hour conversations with her on the phone once a week)
I just feel like the friendship is falling apart, especially when we've been so close. She even told me once that I'm one of her closest friends. I'm okay with her not liking me back that way, but It would be very painful to know that our friendship is drifting further and further away. Is there anything I can do to help the situation?
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hey there
well seeing as you are obviously comfortable enough to tell her your true feelings about her, i would assume you would feel fine talking to her about this. when theres a problem that one has with a friend they should address it and a real friend would listen, not judge & try their best to help.
the only way to fix this is if you confronted her about it. tell her how you feel. tell her that it feels awkward & that you feel shes being distant & ask her why its like that.let her know that your friendship is important to you and that you dont want to drift apart. ask her if telling her how you felt made anything different at all. based off of what she tells you with all this, you should know what to do as a good friend.
feel free to ask me anything else
hope i helped and good luck!
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