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family problems
13/m
ok so during these holidays my parents told me and my siblings that they dont love each other anymore, and are getting a divorce, and for the first few weeks it affected my sisters alot, but not so much for me, i think it was because i understood that people do this kind of thing all the time, but lately my girlfriend who i love (or think i do anyways) and myself, things have just been weird, only starting this week though, im not sure why, i ask her whats wrong and she just says she doesnt know, and its pretty hard for me, ive been getting really angry and sad from it all, more angry than sad though. ive talked about it to people and theyve tried to help but just idk anymore about anything, i havent really wanted to do anything the past couple of days since this.
does anyone know what i can do? just to make myself better, i really dont like it at the moment
and if theres anything you think will help.
thanks
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Going to church is a great idea and even better if you and your girlfriend both attend church together. My parents got divorced when i was 15 and i was pregnant. I felt like it was my fault and my little brother who was around your age his grades dropped a little and went from avg joe to skater punk and it helpped him compromise you just have to relize it happens to couples who dont try. counsling really helps.
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Do you go to church? Know of a church or youth group you'd like to join? Have a school counsellor? These are places for you to find a trusted adult to talk with and express your feelings to. Your problems with your friend are most likely a result of what's happening in your family right now. You are expressing the hurt and anger that you can't (or won't) express at home. You need a healthy, safe place to let all that crap out, so you can cope with the day to day stuff of everything that's happening in your family right now. Even though you have an understanding about why your parents are breaking up, that doesn't mean you won't hurt about it. so find an adult you can trust, either to talk to or to recommend a place to go to talk. Its good to have friends to help you, but you need someone older who has experience. Good luck to you. I don't know why parents EVER choose the holidays to break such horrible news. That's an awful thing to do to a family - to make them associate the holidays with pain. But, its out of your hands. The best thing you can do for yourself and your happiness is seek help.
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