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insecurities
16/f
i have many insecurities about my boyfriend cheating on me or is flirting with other girls. the reason for that, was because my first boyfriend he cheated on me twice. and i got broken up a couple of times in a row because they started liking another girl by flirting or they were cheating. and my first longest relationship liked his ex girlfriend while going out with me and was talking to another girl in the beginning of the relationship. now my current boyfriend i've been with for about 13 months, he flirted with another girl in the beginning of the relationship. after he got caught, he actually admitted it. the thing is that he is very honest to me and he would actually admit it if he was cheating on me. i spoke to him about my insecurities before and actually told him why and everything, he understood me, but he doesn't exactly know what to do to help me. he said if he was cheating on me, he would tell me straight up and he wouldn't hide it or anything. i know myself he's not cheating o me, but i keep thinking at times that he is. like, whenever he doesn't really answer my text message or phone call even sometimes when i just see him 3 minutes afterwards i feel insecure. so i usually think about the possibilities like he has band practice, he's hanging out with his friends, he's sleeping, he's doing chores or something. but i end up running out of ideas and he ends up calling me later and apologizes saying whatever he did earlier. in the back of my mind or when i run out of ideas i keep thinking he's kissing another girl or having sex with them. i hate it when i think that way. i try whatever i can to ignore it. i try to think positive or think about all the possibilities from before. is there anything i can do?
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Just because your last boyfriend cheated on you and did things you didn't agree with doesn't exactly mean that the one your dating now will do the same every boy is different in a way it's a good thing he's honest with you and is willing to admit he did something wrong but you can't stress over him cheating on you and doing other things you've got to trust him part of being in a relationship with someone is being able to trust them you'll make yourself become stressed out if you constantly assume he's doing something bad without you there you can't accuse him of doing something unless you've got proof keep yourself busy that way you won't have time to think about the possiblities and you'll be doing other things
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You must stop that and start thinkin positive because if theirs no trust then theirs no relationship.You have to understand that he isn't them other guys or your ex's so you cant punish him with your insecurity because of the people who messed with your heart.You just have to think if you would like if he would act that way towards you when you had missed a call or something.If you really beleave deep down that his not like those other people then you shouldn't feel the way you do all the time
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