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Not pregnant & concerned
Hello there
Well my husband and i have been married a little over a year now. I'm not on any form of birth control and when we have sex we dont ever use condoms and he never pulls out. It has been this way the whole marriage. Well I'm concerned that I havnt gotten pregnant yet. I visited the gyn late last year and tested me for a buncha things (including any stds) Well she says everything is fine with me, nothing wrong. My period has always been irregular so idk, could this possibly be a cause? I've always thought i prolly needed to do some special stuff just to get pregnant.
If we're not able to concieve naturally i dont even know how id feel about it. My husband has also questioned the fact that maybe he doesnt produce enough sperm or something but idk.
Anybody recommend anything??
If anyone has any info on this please let me know.
We def see children in our future & it would be devastating if we found out we couldnt...
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Peeps gave you some good advice. That said, no protection and no conception for a full year with regular intercourse is the definition of an infertile couple. While I wouldn't suggest going and getting fertility treatments, you SHOULD go see a doctor and have both of you checked out.
Drugs, alcohol, smoking, etc can lower sperm count and make conception difficult, but even under the worst conditions you should still be able to conceive after a year of trying. Its doctor time, plain and simple.
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Before you do anything drastic involving clinics or fertility treatments you need to make sure you're leading a healthy lifestyle. Many times the female's body is not healthy enough to carry a child to full term or the male's body is producing plenty of UNhealthy sperm that cannot survive the travel to fertilize the egg.
You and your husband need to be taking vitamins every single day. You should be on a prenatal for at least 6 months before you conceive and your husband needs to be on multivitamins specifically for men to help keep his prostate working properly. I am taking a liking to Maxi Health Maxi One Prenatal:
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My husband is really, really fond of Prescriptive Formula Optimal Men's Vitamin Pack by Nature's Bounty:
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Stop smoking, drinking, and using recreational drugs. All of these listed have been proven to cause inferlity short and long term. The sooner you stop, the better chances you will have now and later.
Change your eating habits. Stop eating so much junk food and candies and start eating more vegetables. The better nutrition you receieve, the better your body will absorb it. Dump out the junk (and, no, don't try artifical sweeteners because they've shown to produce infertility as well)--the sodas, candies, cakes, etc. You don't have to do anything so strict that you cannot have a little snack here and there but you need to be aware of what you're putting into your body every day.
Stop consuming things with artificial sweeteners in them. In the long run, it's better to drink a can of coke than it is diet coke. The artificial sweeteners in many products cause so many health problems it's ridiculous.
Exercise regularly. You don't have to go out to the gym or lift weights but you and your husband both need to give your muscles a work out at least 3 times a week. Go for a short walk together or do a workout video together that you both are able to do. It's vital that you both work on this.
Make sure to de-stress often, at least once a week. Make time to just relax. Watch your favorite movie together or just have a night out bowling. Whatever it is that you need to do to relax--do it!
Track your cycles. From the day you begin your period you need to keep track on a calendar of what is going on. Mark your first day down as "Start" and 'x' the following days that you are bleeding. After 6 months of this you should get a decent idea of when you might be ovulating. Ovulation, typically, occurs about halfway through your regular menstrual cycle or on day 14 for most women. During ovulation you will have more chances of concieving because of the conditions within your body.
If you cannot track your cycles because they are SO irregular (more than 32 days long, typically) then I hope you have a little cash saved up! Start buying some things at your local Wal-Mart or other store:
OTC Daily Ovulation Predictors
OTC Fertility Tests
OTC Pregnancy Tests
Begin with the fertilty tests so that you know you are able to get pregnant. Use these for at least 6 months so you get a strong idea of the results. Use the daily ovulation tests every day for at least 6 months so that you can grasp a better idea of when/if you are ovulating.
Throw away:
Your sexual lubrication.
Artificial lube hinders the sperm's ability to be mobile and may make them unhealthy. Try to drink more fluids (WATER!) so that your vagina can maintain good lubrication when needed.
Have sex every 3 days at the most. Having sex more often than that can cause sperm counts to go low, dehydrate the body, and dwindle away nutrients.
Ask your husband to NOT wear tight pants. Tight clothing causes circulation problems in the testes and may make things too warm for sperm to develop properly. Let him around around the house in his boxers (or nude)! If you have to go shopping for looser pants and underwear then do it! It's healthier for him in the long run!
Pick up a iodine supplment for you and your husband to take regularly. New research is finding that many Americans are depleted of idoine and are experiencing common problems because of it--diabetes, low metabolism, headaches, fatigue, and temporary infertility! Head down to your local vitamin shop and look around for some kelp for iodine supplementation (along with your prenatals and your husband multi)! Look for, preferably, Norwegian sea kelp or Bladderwrack. Consume 1,500 to 2,000 Milligrams of this supplement each day. My favorite one, so far, has been Nature's Herbs Norwegian Kelp:
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Relax. It really hasn't been that long of a time. Many couples find that when they stop worrying about becoming pregnant and start leading healthy lives together, happy to just be together, they become pregnant. Getting pregnant sounds easy but it's a very complicated thing. Your uterine conditions have to be a certain way to produce offspring. Toxins built up in your body can prevent you from becoming pregnant. Having a stressful job may cause you to miscarriage before you even know you're pregnant! It's possible that you've been pregnant a dozen times already and have never made it past a couple of weeks!
So, most importantly than anything, don't panic. It'll come when your body can handle it. You're young and your doctor has already given you the all-clear. All you need to do now is to make sure your body is at it's peak.
It'll all happen in time. I wish you the best of luck. Please feel free to inbox me more directly if you have any further questions, as I have a LOAD of useful information when trying to get pregnant!
P.S. Don't listen to people who say that it's been too long to have not gotten pregnant or that it's been an "amazing" long time. It really hasn't. Some people get pregnant very easily, very luckily while most of us take a little time, especially if we haven't treated ourselves very well all of our lives. Honestly, it isn't so strange. There are tons of couples who get pregnant after two years even!
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One or both of you could be sterile. It could also be amazing timing that hasn't gotten you pregnant (doubt it). Both of you should see a doctor.
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Go and visit your doctor/a fertility clinic with your husband. You both need to get checked out to see what's going on (if anything at all). Once you find out if there is a problem or not, you can get advice on where to go from there.
Remember that everything could be fine. Getting pregnant is actually really difficult - the female has to be at a certain point in her cycle and a sperm has to survive long enough to make it to her egg. The odds are slim. All those teenage girls you hear of who are pregnant - they are just very unlucky. It could just be that the stars haven't aligned for you yet.
Having said that, if you don't want a baby at the moment, it's not smart to have unprotected sex.
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