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mixed signals for 5 years...
I dont have much space so I'll try to make this brief... I've been knowing this guy for 5 years. The first year I knew him he tried his hardest to try and get me to be his girlfriend. I always rejected until he gave up and started going out with someone that was actually paying attention to him. They ended up going out for a year and in that year I had also gotten a boyfriend. The guy was upset when he found out since I always told him I didnt want a bf. During that year that we were both in relationships we still kept in touch. when he broke up with her, my bf and i had also broken up. so we started talking again; about 3 months later he tells me his ex had called him and hes confused doesnt know how he feel for her... whatever. I told him he can go figure it out but I wasn't gonna be there... so he would break up with her to come to me and stop talking to me to be with her he was always indecisive so I just stopped talking to him, about a month later he calls apologizing for everything hes put me through,etc. Things were perfect for a couple of months. then i call him to put things on a break because I was busy with school and work, unfortunately i let him speak first and he says he's going to take my advice and just have fun, he was going through something sort of like a depression and i told him to just have fun. I didnt mind we still kept each other posted on what we did through out the day etc. then about a month later he goes away to see his friend for his bday, little did i know that one of our mutual friends that i met through him was going to be there. she had made out with him in the past but they both assured me it was nothing, after i see she had posted the pics on facebook i ask her and after a couple of hours of speaking she admits they made out. i keep seeing she puts pics of them up and idk if its to get me mad or what. a couple of months later we happen to be in the same place at the same time and we go for a walk, he tells me the real reason why him and i stopped talking was because he was getting attached almost falling in love and it had scared him,after that my friends told me i shouldnt see that girl as a threat because maybe hes just using her. we already had 4 years knowing each other/ talking/ being a couple though it was on and off. It just got me upset that it seemed as if he gave her so much attention, even invited her to his school upstate. i shouldve know she always like him because she had applied to the school he was previously in, thank god he had already transferred out. he always calls. texts me randomly and i guess its just to keep me in his radar, but why. I had never had sex with him until a couple of weeks ago and he was actually my first. He's still keeping me at a distance and just bothers me randomly. I had deleted him on facebook but sometimes he writes things about me to his friends or to me through a post on one of our mutual friends pages. he's also been saying unnecessary things about one of my friends that is doing a video blog with one of his friends. I mean I try not pay any mind, to anything and then he would start mentioning my name... very immature acts. idk if he does these things to get my attention or what so i act like if it doesnt bother me and just ignore it. I just wish he would come to his senses and just commit. and whats the point of these immature comments? and whats the point of that stupid girl that he did something with?
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I think this guy is a little mixed up himself. As in, if he is trying to get you so bad, then actually gets you and goes for another girl.. his head isn't really all in it for you. He needs to make a decision. Either you or her. It is definately not right to go looking for two girls instead of one he can truly commit to. This other girl might have been his way of trying to make you jealous, trying to see how much you care for him, or it might just be him trying to impress his friends. Whatever the reason, there should not be one.
His immature comments are probably a way to impress his friends or show you off to everyone.
If there is anything you should do, you should get him alone with you. When you are alone with him, tell him exactly how you feel about the situation and tell him that he needs to commit, be honest, and prove that the love he had for you is still there. If he truly loves you, it shouldn't be a problem giving you some real signs.
He most likely mentions your name for he cannot stop thinking about you. When he finally realizes it, he should bring you closer to his heart and you will feel a connection. After you both know what is happening in one anothers heads, you will be able to move forward in your relationship. Sometimes, guys just don't catch on. You have to explain how you feel about them or they may never figure it out.
With love comes difficulties, but with fixing those difficulties... comes a stronger realationship. Trust what your heart tells you <3
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Well first of all that girl seems like nothing but trouble. there could be a couple of different reasons why your friend is acting that way. maybe he is sacred to commit to one person you should talk to him face to face about it dont be shy because if you cant talk to him about this you should be together in th long run. you want some one who you can communicate with easily. its also not a good sign if he used another girl because that means he could be taking advantage of your friendship so be carefull. at the same time everyone makes mistakes you need to think hard can you see a future with him is, that what you want.
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that girl is a cow.how mean!she hooked up with him eventhough she knew about you being with him etc.
to be honest i thinnk hes playing around with both of you.he likes both of you and wants both of you.he hates the idea of you ignoring him so hes trying to grab your attention.
if you want him then you should tell him to stop playing games.you should tell him that your here right now in at this moment asking him if he wnats to be with you and if he doesnt want you and wont commit then to tell you so that you can get on with your life and be with soemone that actually isnt scared to fall inlove and be with you.
he cant decide and the reason hes with that other girl is because shes easy.shes using him as much as hes using her.i just dont understand why he spent soo long trying to get you and once he got you he runs away?doesnt make sense to me.hes hiding soemthing.
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