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Another boyfriend problem
My boyfriend and I have been going out for 4+ months now...it doesn't seem like that long, but it is for me. We have had sex, but I don't regret it. I don't feel like sex makes 2 people closer together, it just seems like a fun thing to do with someone you love for me, so I don't really know if our problems are related to sex or not. The main problem is that he's changed. He used to be so sweet to me...once he told me I was like God to him. The first time we had sex was a couple days after Christmas break began. I was about to leave on a 2 week trip and I really just wanted to have sex and have fun before I left...now don't get me wrong, this wasn't a spur-of-the-moment decision. I had thought about it before and we had talked about it a lot. We talked about our concerns with sex changing us and I knew I was ready. I don't regret having sex with him at all. Well after we had sex, and I was gone for about 2 weeks, he would be texting me all the time and saying how much he missed me and loved me. Then I got back, and he was just SO happy to see me and I loved it and everything seemed perfect. Fast forward to now, a couple weeks later. He is hardly ever sweet to me any more...our conversations seem to have no substance whatsoever...he randomly gets mad at me for the smallest things...we never go on actual dates anymore, he only cares about sneaking out with me so we can have sex. I brought that up to him and he said it's just easier to sneak out because he doesn't have to think of a place to take me, he doesn't have to ask his parents for permission, and he doesn't have to get money...I just don't think he really cares about me any more, or he just doesn't appreciate me? Is there anything I can do to save our relationship? Please help me out, I put off posting this for the longest time, thinking I could handle it on my own, but now I'm not so sure. Give me an honest answer, what do you think I should do?
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i agree,give him time to miss you so that he can appreciate you.he needs to realise that your special to him and its not all about sex.the thing with guys is that once you start them up on sex they always want it.he probibly thinks that you enjoy the sex too,better than going out on dates etc.you need to communicate with him more.if you bottle this up inside (like me) your going to explode and make it soo much bigger than it is.just let him know that you dont want it to be about sex all the time.you want to go on dates,you want him to woo you and seduce you and make you feel really loved.just tell him whats oj your mind.or even say heyy lets hang out or lets go to the park or lets go out for lunch etc somewhere public so he gets that you actually want to hang out with him.
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Give him time to miss you. When you were away he missed you so keep him at a distance without ignoring him. And don't have sex with him all the time; if he gets mad at you for not wanting to have sex then thats all he wants. It seems to me that he feels he doesn't need to make an effort anymore since you already gave it to him and guys like the chase; saying its easier to sneak out and just have sex isn't a good excuse to not take you out on a date... think about it. He can sneak out take you somewhere romantic. right?
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